You want me to be honest? No one wants a friend that has nothing to contribute. It took me a while to learn that. You can't just expect people to find something interesting in you. You have to let it be known. I know it can be really hard when you're in a rough place but I would suggest finding something you really enjoy and putting all your frustration into it. Be it an instrument, running, going to the gym or even wine tasting. If you have interests you'll find it a lot easier to meet people. Make yourself the kind of person you'd want to hang out with. You're not blaming anyone else for this problem and you seem like a really good person so don't talk yourself out of it. When you spend a lot of time alone it can be really easy to never get out of the slump because it's easier to make up excuses than do something about it.
Also I don't like that people say socializing "drains" introverts. Being an introvert myself, that makes it seem like socializing is a necessary chore when in reality, it should not feel like that at all. I like to think that introverts simply live in their heads more than others. We tend to think more and say less but that does not mean an introvert has to be any less sociable than an extrovert. If I'm having a couple drinks with some good friends, to say that it "drains" me is an absolutely ridiculous notion.
If you just said you spend a lot of time alone, I would say it's completely normal because a lot of people like their alone time. But you said you wanted more friends and the only way you're going to do that is by putting yourself out there. Cheer up man. The world really is filled with great people if you look hard enough.
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You want me to be honest? No one wants a friend that has nothing to contribute. It took me a while to learn that. You can't just expect people to find something interesting in you. You have to let it be known. I know it can be really hard when you're in a rough place but I would suggest finding something you really enjoy and putting all your frustration into it. Be it an instrument, running, going to the gym or even wine tasting. If you have interests you'll find it a lot easier to meet people. Make yourself the kind of person you'd want to hang out with. You're not blaming anyone else for this problem and you seem like a really good person so don't talk yourself out of it. When you spend a lot of time alone it can be really easy to never get out of the slump because it's easier to make up excuses than do something about it.
Also I don't like that people say socializing "drains" introverts. Being an introvert myself, that makes it seem like socializing is a necessary chore when in reality, it should not feel like that at all. I like to think that introverts simply live in their heads more than others. We tend to think more and say less but that does not mean an introvert has to be any less sociable than an extrovert. If I'm having a couple drinks with some good friends, to say that it "drains" me is an absolutely ridiculous notion.
If you just said you spend a lot of time alone, I would say it's completely normal because a lot of people like their alone time. But you said you wanted more friends and the only way you're going to do that is by putting yourself out there. Cheer up man. The world really is filled with great people if you look hard enough.