I don't care whether it's normal or not - but I feel like this at the moment, not all the time, just at certain points of my life.
You are getting good grades, the normal and healthy reaction should be being proud of yourself, instead you focus on your behaviour -you are hating yourself for being proud and hating yourself for liking the fact that others aren't doing as well as you.
People have probably got jealous of you getting good grades and feel annoyed when you speak of them, this is very common, but instead of focusing on the fault of others being jealous and probably wanting or wishing you would fail at something, you focus on yourself, you take on board others lack of character and blame yourself - which turns into self loathing.
I reckon deep down you wish people would like you, and you have probably acted in a very likeable way - but now you have given up - you hate yourself, you feel like rubbish, and you probably have got a lot of suppressed anger inside of you - angry how others aren't pleased for your achievements, but because you suppress the anger it turns into anger toward yourself.
I may have got this completely wrong, I was writing from my perspective, what I have done, what I still do now.
But for me, I don't always feel like this, I do have a lot of good days where I feel like I'm a nice person, and it largely depends on the people around me, whether they accept me, care for me, respect me. When that happens I am a really lovely person, when I'm around people who don't care, want me to suffer, look down on me, then the hatred and self-loathing comes back, deep down I want them to approve of me, but I give up and I want them to hate me, because then my self-loathing, my anger towards myself turns into being angry at someone else.
It's really good that you can recognise the fact that you want everyone to hate you whilst you are still at school or I presume you are? a lot of people do this and don't recognise it until much later - you seem to have a lot of emotional intelligence for your age and the ability to look at yourself reflectively, this is a really good quality to have, you also come across as a very honest person - when I read your question, I didn't see a bad person, I saw this instead.
Is it normal to want everyone to HATE me
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I don't care whether it's normal or not - but I feel like this at the moment, not all the time, just at certain points of my life.
You are getting good grades, the normal and healthy reaction should be being proud of yourself, instead you focus on your behaviour -you are hating yourself for being proud and hating yourself for liking the fact that others aren't doing as well as you.
People have probably got jealous of you getting good grades and feel annoyed when you speak of them, this is very common, but instead of focusing on the fault of others being jealous and probably wanting or wishing you would fail at something, you focus on yourself, you take on board others lack of character and blame yourself - which turns into self loathing.
I reckon deep down you wish people would like you, and you have probably acted in a very likeable way - but now you have given up - you hate yourself, you feel like rubbish, and you probably have got a lot of suppressed anger inside of you - angry how others aren't pleased for your achievements, but because you suppress the anger it turns into anger toward yourself.
I may have got this completely wrong, I was writing from my perspective, what I have done, what I still do now.
But for me, I don't always feel like this, I do have a lot of good days where I feel like I'm a nice person, and it largely depends on the people around me, whether they accept me, care for me, respect me. When that happens I am a really lovely person, when I'm around people who don't care, want me to suffer, look down on me, then the hatred and self-loathing comes back, deep down I want them to approve of me, but I give up and I want them to hate me, because then my self-loathing, my anger towards myself turns into being angry at someone else.
It's really good that you can recognise the fact that you want everyone to hate you whilst you are still at school or I presume you are? a lot of people do this and don't recognise it until much later - you seem to have a lot of emotional intelligence for your age and the ability to look at yourself reflectively, this is a really good quality to have, you also come across as a very honest person - when I read your question, I didn't see a bad person, I saw this instead.