I think it's about adrenaline, surrender, power...like a dark secret between the two of you when you let these demons out. They seem to come from some primitive repressed impulses in human nature so it can be very cathartic to express it.
But this is ONLY sexy when it's consensual. If you have it thrust upon you with no choice, you will just hate that person and probably hate yourself as well. It's about exercising your own free will in the process. You have to decide to let go or it's not going to be enjoyable. If someone else decides for you, that's abuse. If you both decide, it's for erotic kicks.
I'd suggest you create a profile on a BDSM dating site, since most "vanilla" guys will be extremely reluctant to hit a woman. Then make sure you get to know someone well b4 doing anything, take it slowly, and the first sign it is going further than you wish you should make that clear. There are also safe ways and stupid ways to "abuse" your partner! You can get all the feelings and impressions of fantasy with very few actual effects. You should both be aiming for ways to achieve this.
Is it normal to want an abusive boyfriend?
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I think it's about adrenaline, surrender, power...like a dark secret between the two of you when you let these demons out. They seem to come from some primitive repressed impulses in human nature so it can be very cathartic to express it.
But this is ONLY sexy when it's consensual. If you have it thrust upon you with no choice, you will just hate that person and probably hate yourself as well. It's about exercising your own free will in the process. You have to decide to let go or it's not going to be enjoyable. If someone else decides for you, that's abuse. If you both decide, it's for erotic kicks.
I'd suggest you create a profile on a BDSM dating site, since most "vanilla" guys will be extremely reluctant to hit a woman. Then make sure you get to know someone well b4 doing anything, take it slowly, and the first sign it is going further than you wish you should make that clear. There are also safe ways and stupid ways to "abuse" your partner! You can get all the feelings and impressions of fantasy with very few actual effects. You should both be aiming for ways to achieve this.