It's normal to worry about that. You sound like you're not ready to have sex with her, and if you don't feel ready, you shouldn't do it. You could come to regret it later. If you're planning on pursuing this girl seriously, however, consider that you can't put off sex forever. (Well, you can, but you have to make sure your partner is ok with that.) Because of this, you should look into the real reasons why you're scared.
If you think you're too young, I advise you to wait until you're older and feel ready. Same applies if you think it's too early in the relationship. Sex is messy and it's scary, and definitely not something you should do if you're not ready and 100% comfortable with your partner and your commitment to her. If it's not because of that--is it because you'd think less of her if she was willing to have sex with you? That you'd start to see her as a sexual item rather than a person? If so, you have some hang-ups about your sexuality that you need to work with before doing something like that. Alternatively, you could make a decision to wait until marriage, so that the solidification of commitment would ease the impact.
Whatever you choose, don't do it unprepared. And speaking of preparation--don't forget birth control. It's very important! At the very least, wear a condom.
IIN to to be scared sex might ruin my relationship
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It's normal to worry about that. You sound like you're not ready to have sex with her, and if you don't feel ready, you shouldn't do it. You could come to regret it later. If you're planning on pursuing this girl seriously, however, consider that you can't put off sex forever. (Well, you can, but you have to make sure your partner is ok with that.) Because of this, you should look into the real reasons why you're scared.
If you think you're too young, I advise you to wait until you're older and feel ready. Same applies if you think it's too early in the relationship. Sex is messy and it's scary, and definitely not something you should do if you're not ready and 100% comfortable with your partner and your commitment to her. If it's not because of that--is it because you'd think less of her if she was willing to have sex with you? That you'd start to see her as a sexual item rather than a person? If so, you have some hang-ups about your sexuality that you need to work with before doing something like that. Alternatively, you could make a decision to wait until marriage, so that the solidification of commitment would ease the impact.
Whatever you choose, don't do it unprepared. And speaking of preparation--don't forget birth control. It's very important! At the very least, wear a condom.