She is probably a pathological liar. They will often construct elaborate lies, seemingly with no motive, and even when challenged are unlikely to ever admit the truth... Even when there is overwhelming evidence that they are lying.
This is probably indicative of a psychological disorder, something she should address before she destroys every relationship she has. It could be that the motive is attention and sympathy (judging by the nature of her lies it seems likely), or perhaps that she genuinely believes her own lies (self delusion / false memory, rarer).
It's absolutely normal to think your friend is faking cancer, when your friend is someone who has obviously lied about serious illness in the past (nobody fully recovers from MS - you can have periods of good health with few symptoms, but its not permanent recovery).
Here's an idea. Confront her, be absolutely honest. Say to her, "I'm sorry, but I'm having trouble believing that you have an inoperable tumour because in the past you have lied to me, and there are a lot of things that don't add up. If you could show me some genuine evidence (letters from doctors / hospital, medication etc.) just to put my doubts to rest?" If she can't or refuses to, in all likelihood it's because it's a lie. If she can, she might be hurt that you doubted her, but at least then you can give your full support and trust could be restored between you. Good luck :)
You answer really speaks to me.
She is flying down next week for more 'procedures'and I may see her then. She goes to such lengths to embellish her stories.
I feel it is something I need to discuss with her face to face.
Once again Thank You for your well thought out response.
Is it normal to think your friend is faking Cancer?
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She is probably a pathological liar. They will often construct elaborate lies, seemingly with no motive, and even when challenged are unlikely to ever admit the truth... Even when there is overwhelming evidence that they are lying.
This is probably indicative of a psychological disorder, something she should address before she destroys every relationship she has. It could be that the motive is attention and sympathy (judging by the nature of her lies it seems likely), or perhaps that she genuinely believes her own lies (self delusion / false memory, rarer).
It's absolutely normal to think your friend is faking cancer, when your friend is someone who has obviously lied about serious illness in the past (nobody fully recovers from MS - you can have periods of good health with few symptoms, but its not permanent recovery).
Here's an idea. Confront her, be absolutely honest. Say to her, "I'm sorry, but I'm having trouble believing that you have an inoperable tumour because in the past you have lied to me, and there are a lot of things that don't add up. If you could show me some genuine evidence (letters from doctors / hospital, medication etc.) just to put my doubts to rest?" If she can't or refuses to, in all likelihood it's because it's a lie. If she can, she might be hurt that you doubted her, but at least then you can give your full support and trust could be restored between you. Good luck :)
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You answer really speaks to me.
She is flying down next week for more 'procedures'and I may see her then. She goes to such lengths to embellish her stories.
I feel it is something I need to discuss with her face to face.
Once again Thank You for your well thought out response.