I think that people in a relationship that is not fulfilling their needs but at the same time does give them a sense of stability ofte need the affection of a outhird-party to realize what is missing. It is a very difficult situation to be in because a lot is at stake at this point, but ignoring your feelings is not the answer. In the short run it might be a good decision considering that you will not be 'ruining'anything, but I think that in the long run such a situation will not last.. I would advise you to more closely consider if it is just the one person that makes you feel insecure about your situation, or if you would actually be interested in other people showing interest in you as a person.. When the second situation applies I would seriously consider changing the current status even though it seems stable.
Thanks for giving the best advice. I am smart enough to know it wouldn't last. I love the man I'm with and being with his friend would make me miss him oh so bad and it would be a constant reminder of what I did. I have thought about others but not for such a long time. But I'm kind of out of sight out of mind with people I crush on so maybe my feelings will change if I just avoid him long enough.
Is it normal to think we'd be better off without eachother?
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I think that people in a relationship that is not fulfilling their needs but at the same time does give them a sense of stability ofte need the affection of a outhird-party to realize what is missing. It is a very difficult situation to be in because a lot is at stake at this point, but ignoring your feelings is not the answer. In the short run it might be a good decision considering that you will not be 'ruining'anything, but I think that in the long run such a situation will not last.. I would advise you to more closely consider if it is just the one person that makes you feel insecure about your situation, or if you would actually be interested in other people showing interest in you as a person.. When the second situation applies I would seriously consider changing the current status even though it seems stable.
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Thanks for giving the best advice. I am smart enough to know it wouldn't last. I love the man I'm with and being with his friend would make me miss him oh so bad and it would be a constant reminder of what I did. I have thought about others but not for such a long time. But I'm kind of out of sight out of mind with people I crush on so maybe my feelings will change if I just avoid him long enough.