I don't know what particular religious background you come from. I am a Christian, and can speak from this perspective. Having desires for or attractions to women is a natural thing, and by no means makes you "sub human"--that's actually part of your humanity. In the beginning, when God created the earth, he made a Man and a Woman, and gave them to each other. Sex, physical touch, etc. are all God's idea. He invented it all! Now, because of sin, such things can become corrupted, and abused, and done wrongly. Sex is supposed to be between one man and one woman, together in the covenant of marriage.
But there is still normal attraction, and I believe that physical intimacy of certain types is permissible before marriage as well. Holding hands, kissing, embracing. But sex is a gift best enjoyed in marriage.
Now, in terms of you NOT feeling this way very frequently, please let me tell you this: THAT'S OK! You are by no means "less manly" or "less of a man" because you don't feel, act, talk, or think the same way as your guy friends. You are a man because God has made you a man. In the Bible, St. Paul also talks about how some people are called to singleness, because they are not as effected by abstaining from intimacy with the other sex. He calls that a blessing, because you're able to focus on God more, and His work. I don't know where you stand today in your faith, but the God who made you loves you, and would be equally happy to see you married to the right woman, in a relationship that is full of love, and committed to Him, or if you remain single, and do what you can for Him that way.
IIN to think that doing sex or just having desire makes me sub-human?
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I don't know what particular religious background you come from. I am a Christian, and can speak from this perspective. Having desires for or attractions to women is a natural thing, and by no means makes you "sub human"--that's actually part of your humanity. In the beginning, when God created the earth, he made a Man and a Woman, and gave them to each other. Sex, physical touch, etc. are all God's idea. He invented it all! Now, because of sin, such things can become corrupted, and abused, and done wrongly. Sex is supposed to be between one man and one woman, together in the covenant of marriage.
But there is still normal attraction, and I believe that physical intimacy of certain types is permissible before marriage as well. Holding hands, kissing, embracing. But sex is a gift best enjoyed in marriage.
Now, in terms of you NOT feeling this way very frequently, please let me tell you this: THAT'S OK! You are by no means "less manly" or "less of a man" because you don't feel, act, talk, or think the same way as your guy friends. You are a man because God has made you a man. In the Bible, St. Paul also talks about how some people are called to singleness, because they are not as effected by abstaining from intimacy with the other sex. He calls that a blessing, because you're able to focus on God more, and His work. I don't know where you stand today in your faith, but the God who made you loves you, and would be equally happy to see you married to the right woman, in a relationship that is full of love, and committed to Him, or if you remain single, and do what you can for Him that way.
Take heart :) I hope this has helped