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At least for me it's never worked and I hate it when people say "oh just be yourself and she'll like you" or something like that, its never worked on anybody. Maybe it's cuz I'm a loner and really to get along with people that I don't know I have to fake it
It's important to be yourself, but it's also important to be the best self that you can be.
"I'm just being myself" should not be used as an excuse for you to ignore shortcomings that need to be corrected.
So you meet somebody and you really like them. As the relationship progresses and you are maintaining this pseudo-personality, what happens if you really fall for this person? Would you be able to be this pseudo-person for the rest of your life or are you going to destroy a really good thing because you based it on a lie? That's just plain stupid.
I'm a total and complete asshole and take no shit from anyone, but I've (somehow?) managed to find a few girls who have liked me as I am.
The asshole thing kinda precludes "social skill", believe me. Certainly luck may have had something to do with meeting them, but they are the ones crazy enough to make the effort to get through the "rough exterior".
As for your thoughts of being a "bad person", mass murders on death row get fan mail from so many women; it's absolutely unbelievable. I'd hope you aren't that kind of "bad"? So it's just your self opinion that you are a "bad person".
You shouldn't have to change to fit in with people. If they don't like you for you then there more than likely not worth your time :)
I agree with briefcase[]wanker, that it isn't that simple. I think that adding "and be confident" would often be appropriate.
Don't be yourself unless yourself is a good person. Filter out the negative parts of yourself as much as possible, because those are the parts it isn't important to express. Make a better yourself, then be that.
Being myself does not work either. People say be yourself but they do not take everything into account. However this has never given me issues with dating.
However it gives me issues more socially sometimes than it does relationship wise. Anyways I am going to help you on your dating issue. You say you are a bit of a loner so I have to ask do you even want a date or do you just feel pressured to by "Rules of society"? If you can not get along with new people well and you really want a date I would suggest this. Try dating within your group of friends.
Generally when you date WITHIN your group of friends its a lot more casual and a lot less stressful. If you do not have friends I guess you could try something like one of those online dating sites such as <a href="http://match.com" rel="nofollow">match.com</a>. That or engage in activity where you would find other loner people maybe?
I know gamers tend to be loners and people who read a lot. I am not stereotyping either just I know a bunch of these people and they tend to keep to themselves but are very sociable when its something they like. So maybe find people with a similar personality with a common interest?
I really hope this helped. Good-luck solving your issue.
I am myself and I never get to meet the wrong kind of people.
Act like a bitchass and you might end up in a smoking weed club party.
Maybe being yourself doesn't work for some people, but the ones it does work for are the ones who like you for you and those are the most important people.
If you are fake you will attract people who like the fake you and those are the fake friends.
Its your choice. Would you rather have a hoard of fake friends, or a few real ones?
To put it simple, you learn from your mistakes, if your acting like someone else the mistake is shaped for that someone else, and not you.
This advice usually comes from older people. Whilst it is good advice, younger people often have problems following it.
When you're young, you may not know who you are yet as a person. The girls you want to date probably don't know fully who they are either. So everyone plays "lets be fake as fu'k" because they're insecure.
If you're going to be you, be confident and self-assured as you. If you can't do that, be fake as fu'k and try not to look too desperate.
If you've gotta be fake, then happiness will never last long for you. Listen to Aliceee93.