Is it normal to think my bf was sexually assaulted

I would let him know I'm leaving until he gets his head on straight. Jail changes people, he should seek counseling or therapy

Most likely, yes..Good friend of mine did 90 days in lockup, but was in holding most of the time, so, avoided anything like that, however..Another friend, female, gorgeous (but wrong side of the tracks girl, always in trouble) went in for 3 months after helping her bf rob his employer.

When she got out, the sports bar took her back, and, she was notably different. Gone was the easy, pretty smile and perky look, replaced, at least temporarily, by a more forced, fake, I'm ok but really not, look. People noticed, too. She's a tough woman, but apparently, those inside with her were just as tough or tougher, and, sitting for a drink with her one night off-shift, she didn't directly admit to sexual abuse, but, did, with a serious look on her still model-worthy face said "All I'll say is, if you're not careful..What you think is yours, like your body..Isn't". That told me that some hardened woman had at her at least once.

On the plus side, though, she's made a huge turnaround in her life, is married with a kid, and looking more drop-dead gorgeous than ever. So, you bf can make a turnaround if he wants to.

Just give it time

I think this is beyond you, maybe you could both go to a psychologist. It could help you... :)

Sounds likely. I wouldn't bring it up to him again if he doesn't want to. Let him talk if he trys to open up to you though.

Whatever happened in prison, he clearly didn't learn the lesson that the way he chooses to behave can result in unpleasant consequences.

The guy clearly as serious problems. Since you've been with him for four years and those problems are still there, it's pretty clear that having you in his life is not enough to help him heal or make him see that he needs to alter the course of his life.

That't not your fault. You are who you are and he is who he is. You chose to stick with him through a lot, and that says something positive about you. But if you continue to stick around when you can see he's determined to head in a very bad direction, I think you need to look to your own motivations and your sense of self-worth.

How long before you end up being the victim of his violence? How much abuse are you willing to tolerate?

I have no idea what support is available where you live for people with his sort of problems, but you should look into this. If counselling or support groups are available and he refuses to get off his butt and give them a try, then this would suggest he's just not able to see he has a problem. If someone has a problem that impacts their life and the lives of people who care about them and they refuse to do anything about it, then there's not much anyone else can do for them.

You care about him and that's good. But if he fundamentally doesn't care about himself, then you're setting yourself up for a lot more pain. You deserve to be with someone who behaves better than this. If he's unwilling or unable to try to be that man, then you should move on.

Why not just dump him? Seriously, I wouldn't stay with a a violent criminal. Most violent criminals have a history of violence and abuse in their families' of origin, and yes it's very sad, but it's certainly no reason to stay with a person. I don't see the point in staying with someone who has rage issues. It's possible that he may eventually turn on you like a poorly bred dog.

He went to jail for fighting before though...Has he really changed THAT much? He sounds like he has anger problems and is very insecure like he has something to prove.

I would explore his asshole with him sexually and he can reclaim it