I dunno if I belive you. You used to look at topless women just to 'see if' they were attractive? I habe a hard time buying you looked at naked women just out of curiosity. But that is nonoe of my buisness really, so I'll beleive you for now.
While your response did sound well thought out, you did not really adress my idea of that other forms of non sexual attraction, may actually be just weak sexual impulses. That is still my theory. I don't buy that you like cuddling with women but have not a shred of sexual urge. Not enough urge to have sex, or perhaps even get hard, but I don't see how sexual deisre plays no part in it. On another note, feeling sensations in your genitals makes you a sexual being in my book. You are designed to feel pleasure there. And even f the pleasure never amounts to actually wanting to have sex, sexual urges still play a role in causing you to feel that pleasure in the first place. In my opinion of course!
As to your theory that romantic attraction stems from sub-conscious sexual currents, perhaps research could be done into whether patterns of neural firing and release of nuerotransmitters in the brain are similar for what asexuals and non-asexuals describe as romantic love.
But however my brain is working it does not manifest into feelings of sexual attraction. So even if hypothetically the same neurotransmitters were being released it would not change the fact that I am asexual.
I used to look at topless pictures back in high school hoping I would like them, trying to make myself like them. I wanted to be “normal”. I didn’t understand why I didn’t get excited by bodies the way my friends did until years later when I started reading up on asexuality and it finally “clicked” that asexual was the word for how I feel.
I think your difficulty understanding asexuality likely stems from a lack of exposure in the media. Asexual people are presented as robotic or discluded from the narrative entirely. As a society we are told that everyone experiences sexual attraction. This makes sense in evolutionary terms and everyone around us seems to feel it so combine the fact that you feel it too and I see how strange it must be to be introduced to the concept that some perfectly healthy adults just don’t. But for better or for worse that’s how it is.
Your view makes sense, and I can tell you know what you are talking about. But I still disagree the asexuality in the pure sense, is a thing. I think poeple like you are close enough to no attraction that people call you asexual, and that is fine. I'm jsut wondering uf I'm the onky one who thinks the term is a little misleading, and that bugs me.
Is it normal to think "asexuality" is totally not a thing?
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I dunno if I belive you. You used to look at topless women just to 'see if' they were attractive? I habe a hard time buying you looked at naked women just out of curiosity. But that is nonoe of my buisness really, so I'll beleive you for now.
While your response did sound well thought out, you did not really adress my idea of that other forms of non sexual attraction, may actually be just weak sexual impulses. That is still my theory. I don't buy that you like cuddling with women but have not a shred of sexual urge. Not enough urge to have sex, or perhaps even get hard, but I don't see how sexual deisre plays no part in it. On another note, feeling sensations in your genitals makes you a sexual being in my book. You are designed to feel pleasure there. And even f the pleasure never amounts to actually wanting to have sex, sexual urges still play a role in causing you to feel that pleasure in the first place. In my opinion of course!
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As to your theory that romantic attraction stems from sub-conscious sexual currents, perhaps research could be done into whether patterns of neural firing and release of nuerotransmitters in the brain are similar for what asexuals and non-asexuals describe as romantic love.
But however my brain is working it does not manifest into feelings of sexual attraction. So even if hypothetically the same neurotransmitters were being released it would not change the fact that I am asexual.
I used to look at topless pictures back in high school hoping I would like them, trying to make myself like them. I wanted to be “normal”. I didn’t understand why I didn’t get excited by bodies the way my friends did until years later when I started reading up on asexuality and it finally “clicked” that asexual was the word for how I feel.
I think your difficulty understanding asexuality likely stems from a lack of exposure in the media. Asexual people are presented as robotic or discluded from the narrative entirely. As a society we are told that everyone experiences sexual attraction. This makes sense in evolutionary terms and everyone around us seems to feel it so combine the fact that you feel it too and I see how strange it must be to be introduced to the concept that some perfectly healthy adults just don’t. But for better or for worse that’s how it is.
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Your view makes sense, and I can tell you know what you are talking about. But I still disagree the asexuality in the pure sense, is a thing. I think poeple like you are close enough to no attraction that people call you asexual, and that is fine. I'm jsut wondering uf I'm the onky one who thinks the term is a little misleading, and that bugs me.