Interesing to hear from soemone who claims to be asexual. Now could you be honest with me and say you have never looked at tits or ass with admiration? And have never fondeled your genitals to feel good even once? And also how the fuck is there a 'spectrum' of asexuality? Even if it is possible, it would be either you have it or you do not.
I also took a peek at your site. It seems legit, but also there is some gray areas. I'm not sure I'm looking in the right spot, but it does say under the learn more tab, that asexuals expirience 'other' forms of attraction, but don't actually want to have sex. I would say that these other attractions are because of weak sexual drive, that is just so weak it never translates into actually wanting sex. After all, at first when I was young and my sex drive was less, I just saw girls as interesting. But now that I'm older and have a reved up sex drive, its now like I actually want to stick my dick up there. So weak sexual feelings that don't amount to much may appear as other nonssexual feelings. Does that make sense? Remember, its all my opinion and perception. Don't get triggered or change your life because of me!!
I don’t look at people’s bodies and get sexually excited, I used to look at topless and naked pictures of both genders in the hopes I would feel something but I just don’t.
It’s important to note that asexuality only means a lack of sexual attraction, most asexuals can feel sensation in their genitals, it just doesn’t correspond to another person. I understand this may sound odd to someone who isn’t asexual. When I masterbate my mind mostly drifts to beautiful parks and forests, I’ve tried inserting naked people into these forests sometimes making them bathe in a lake but it does nothing to enhance the sensation. My genitals feel something but it’s probably akin to a non-sexual getting a back massage, it’s not enhanced by seeing attractive people.
Other kinds of attraction refers to romantic attraction, which I sometimes feel towards both genders, so the correct word for people like me is bi-romantic asexual. It means that when I like someone I want to go on dates with them, hold hands, kiss, cuddle, etc but for me that’s where the excitement ends. I like every part of romantic relationships except the sexual parts.
If I date again I will be honest from the start that I am asexual and will only be interested in dating other asexuals or people who feel so little attraction that they would be happy with a sex-less relationship.
My point is, you don’t have to fully understand every niche of asexuality, all you need to know is that it’s the lack of sexual attraction. The words asexual, grey-asexual, Demi-sexual really exist to help asexual spectrum people and their partners understand and communicate what they’re feeling.
I dunno if I belive you. You used to look at topless women just to 'see if' they were attractive? I habe a hard time buying you looked at naked women just out of curiosity. But that is nonoe of my buisness really, so I'll beleive you for now.
While your response did sound well thought out, you did not really adress my idea of that other forms of non sexual attraction, may actually be just weak sexual impulses. That is still my theory. I don't buy that you like cuddling with women but have not a shred of sexual urge. Not enough urge to have sex, or perhaps even get hard, but I don't see how sexual deisre plays no part in it. On another note, feeling sensations in your genitals makes you a sexual being in my book. You are designed to feel pleasure there. And even f the pleasure never amounts to actually wanting to have sex, sexual urges still play a role in causing you to feel that pleasure in the first place. In my opinion of course!
As to your theory that romantic attraction stems from sub-conscious sexual currents, perhaps research could be done into whether patterns of neural firing and release of nuerotransmitters in the brain are similar for what asexuals and non-asexuals describe as romantic love.
But however my brain is working it does not manifest into feelings of sexual attraction. So even if hypothetically the same neurotransmitters were being released it would not change the fact that I am asexual.
I used to look at topless pictures back in high school hoping I would like them, trying to make myself like them. I wanted to be “normal”. I didn’t understand why I didn’t get excited by bodies the way my friends did until years later when I started reading up on asexuality and it finally “clicked” that asexual was the word for how I feel.
I think your difficulty understanding asexuality likely stems from a lack of exposure in the media. Asexual people are presented as robotic or discluded from the narrative entirely. As a society we are told that everyone experiences sexual attraction. This makes sense in evolutionary terms and everyone around us seems to feel it so combine the fact that you feel it too and I see how strange it must be to be introduced to the concept that some perfectly healthy adults just don’t. But for better or for worse that’s how it is.
Your view makes sense, and I can tell you know what you are talking about. But I still disagree the asexuality in the pure sense, is a thing. I think poeple like you are close enough to no attraction that people call you asexual, and that is fine. I'm jsut wondering uf I'm the onky one who thinks the term is a little misleading, and that bugs me.
Is it normal to think "asexuality" is totally not a thing?
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Interesing to hear from soemone who claims to be asexual. Now could you be honest with me and say you have never looked at tits or ass with admiration? And have never fondeled your genitals to feel good even once? And also how the fuck is there a 'spectrum' of asexuality? Even if it is possible, it would be either you have it or you do not.
I also took a peek at your site. It seems legit, but also there is some gray areas. I'm not sure I'm looking in the right spot, but it does say under the learn more tab, that asexuals expirience 'other' forms of attraction, but don't actually want to have sex. I would say that these other attractions are because of weak sexual drive, that is just so weak it never translates into actually wanting sex. After all, at first when I was young and my sex drive was less, I just saw girls as interesting. But now that I'm older and have a reved up sex drive, its now like I actually want to stick my dick up there. So weak sexual feelings that don't amount to much may appear as other nonssexual feelings. Does that make sense? Remember, its all my opinion and perception. Don't get triggered or change your life because of me!!
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I don’t look at people’s bodies and get sexually excited, I used to look at topless and naked pictures of both genders in the hopes I would feel something but I just don’t.
It’s important to note that asexuality only means a lack of sexual attraction, most asexuals can feel sensation in their genitals, it just doesn’t correspond to another person. I understand this may sound odd to someone who isn’t asexual. When I masterbate my mind mostly drifts to beautiful parks and forests, I’ve tried inserting naked people into these forests sometimes making them bathe in a lake but it does nothing to enhance the sensation. My genitals feel something but it’s probably akin to a non-sexual getting a back massage, it’s not enhanced by seeing attractive people.
Other kinds of attraction refers to romantic attraction, which I sometimes feel towards both genders, so the correct word for people like me is bi-romantic asexual. It means that when I like someone I want to go on dates with them, hold hands, kiss, cuddle, etc but for me that’s where the excitement ends. I like every part of romantic relationships except the sexual parts.
If I date again I will be honest from the start that I am asexual and will only be interested in dating other asexuals or people who feel so little attraction that they would be happy with a sex-less relationship.
My point is, you don’t have to fully understand every niche of asexuality, all you need to know is that it’s the lack of sexual attraction. The words asexual, grey-asexual, Demi-sexual really exist to help asexual spectrum people and their partners understand and communicate what they’re feeling.
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I dunno if I belive you. You used to look at topless women just to 'see if' they were attractive? I habe a hard time buying you looked at naked women just out of curiosity. But that is nonoe of my buisness really, so I'll beleive you for now.
While your response did sound well thought out, you did not really adress my idea of that other forms of non sexual attraction, may actually be just weak sexual impulses. That is still my theory. I don't buy that you like cuddling with women but have not a shred of sexual urge. Not enough urge to have sex, or perhaps even get hard, but I don't see how sexual deisre plays no part in it. On another note, feeling sensations in your genitals makes you a sexual being in my book. You are designed to feel pleasure there. And even f the pleasure never amounts to actually wanting to have sex, sexual urges still play a role in causing you to feel that pleasure in the first place. In my opinion of course!
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As to your theory that romantic attraction stems from sub-conscious sexual currents, perhaps research could be done into whether patterns of neural firing and release of nuerotransmitters in the brain are similar for what asexuals and non-asexuals describe as romantic love.
But however my brain is working it does not manifest into feelings of sexual attraction. So even if hypothetically the same neurotransmitters were being released it would not change the fact that I am asexual.
I used to look at topless pictures back in high school hoping I would like them, trying to make myself like them. I wanted to be “normal”. I didn’t understand why I didn’t get excited by bodies the way my friends did until years later when I started reading up on asexuality and it finally “clicked” that asexual was the word for how I feel.
I think your difficulty understanding asexuality likely stems from a lack of exposure in the media. Asexual people are presented as robotic or discluded from the narrative entirely. As a society we are told that everyone experiences sexual attraction. This makes sense in evolutionary terms and everyone around us seems to feel it so combine the fact that you feel it too and I see how strange it must be to be introduced to the concept that some perfectly healthy adults just don’t. But for better or for worse that’s how it is.
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Your view makes sense, and I can tell you know what you are talking about. But I still disagree the asexuality in the pure sense, is a thing. I think poeple like you are close enough to no attraction that people call you asexual, and that is fine. I'm jsut wondering uf I'm the onky one who thinks the term is a little misleading, and that bugs me.