Is it normal to think and even dream about someone else's bf?!

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I can't help it. Its been maybe 6 months and I barely even know the guy! I had a crush on him before I knew he had a girlfriend and now I can't help but obsess and think of him and wanting to be with him. Wishing he would brake-up and just ask me out. I don't want to think like this because i'm no homewrecker! I dont' know her, but I don't hate on her. I hope their happy. But I even dream that he prefers to be with me! guh!! I FEEL OBSESSED,depressed, and i want to see him......I need advice ;:{

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  • JoeyAnne
    13 years ago

    This is so funny. I've done the same thing! I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and I've had dreams about my friend's roommates boyfriend. I love my boyfriend but I've dreamt that the other guy and I were together instead. I don't think you're obsessed if you know you aren't a homewrecker. You're just attracted to him. Attraction comes and goes. This will pass.

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  • scotty4444
    13 years ago

    Its normal to want the things in life that you cant have, if its meant to be, it will happen. The trick is to support him in his relationship, and be a good friend to him, and maybe he will see in you something he doesnt see in his girlfriend, and if by chance they break up, he will come to you naturally. But you wouldnt want a guy who would leave his girl because he is on to bigger and better would you? That could very well be you some day...

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  • theonewiththehair
    13 years ago

    I think we've all liked someone we wish we didn't at some point, whether its because they're seeing someone else or they don't reciprocate those feelings, or whatever. You're not doing anything wrong because you can't control your feelings. You know going after a guy who has a gf is wrong, so all you can is try to find distractions. Maybe distance yourself from him.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    you can't control who you like. i'd say you're fine as long as you don't act on your feelings toward him. maybe he'll break up with her. if not, i'm sure you'll find someone else.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    I do try! AND I thought it was working, but alll of a sudden I had dreams subconciously...and GAH! it jus replays over and over again in my head....I can't concentrate.

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  • thread
    13 years ago

    Does sound a little obsessive. Try channeling that toward someone who is single.

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