Id like to say this first and foremost: Im a guy, but just because Im a guy, that doesnt mean that Im here to "bash" women, or that I support guys sleeping around. With that being said... I understand what you mean. With some men, there really isnt much in mind besides sex. I agree that many guys can be complete and total assholes, and douche bags, whatever term tickles your fancy. But... There're some nice guys out there. We are just hard to find. As a comedian once said "You women are always complaining about how men are such dicks, and that there are no nice guys around. Thats not true, the nice guys are just ugly." And yes, that may be a comedian, but he kinda has a bit of a point. Nice guys have a tendency to be more timid, and we sometimes blend into the framework, so to speak. And theres a reason why you have probably had a few bad experiences with guys... We are, by our very nature and genetic programing, probable to attempt to cheat. From a genetic stand point, we evolved to try to spread our genes with as many individuals as possible. Its not that we are trying to hurt your, or that we actually strive to cheat and just fuck as many girls as we can (admittedly, some guys do that, but not all of us), we are programed to attempt to have sex with all the girls that we can. There're guys who can control themselves prety well, but others have trouble doing so, and its fairly difficult to work against the genetic code. Also, Ican almost guarantee that most of the guys you've had relationships with have had afew things in common. There're certain things that women are genetically programmed to strive for ina possible mate. The problem with that is all women are programmed (on one level) to want men with those features. For instance, this isnt sexist, studies have been done by credible scientific institutes: Women are programmed to be attracted to men who appear to have power, and who appear to have traits that would make them seem "dominant" on one level or another. Once again, by virtue of these traits, powerful dominant males of this species used to run things differently... What Im getting at, is that the very factors that make men attractive, in many instances, also make us more likely to attempt to cheat, and that's how things are on an evolutionary standpoint. All men are horny pervs, and guy who tells you otherwise is just ashamed to admit it. By this nature... shits tough. Nice guys do exist, I can guarantee you. The thing is, we're not always the "pick of the litter" or some other such thing. We're harder to find, and for "some reason" (the above stated things), we generally dont always come across at attractive. I'm a nice guy, people always say that to me, I strive to be nice, caring and understanding. But as a friend of mine once put it "I think you're always just seen as the 'Gay Friend'." Nice guys are out there... women just dont always see us as good potential relationship material.
Is it normal to think all men are pigs?
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Id like to say this first and foremost: Im a guy, but just because Im a guy, that doesnt mean that Im here to "bash" women, or that I support guys sleeping around. With that being said... I understand what you mean. With some men, there really isnt much in mind besides sex. I agree that many guys can be complete and total assholes, and douche bags, whatever term tickles your fancy. But... There're some nice guys out there. We are just hard to find. As a comedian once said "You women are always complaining about how men are such dicks, and that there are no nice guys around. Thats not true, the nice guys are just ugly." And yes, that may be a comedian, but he kinda has a bit of a point. Nice guys have a tendency to be more timid, and we sometimes blend into the framework, so to speak. And theres a reason why you have probably had a few bad experiences with guys... We are, by our very nature and genetic programing, probable to attempt to cheat. From a genetic stand point, we evolved to try to spread our genes with as many individuals as possible. Its not that we are trying to hurt your, or that we actually strive to cheat and just fuck as many girls as we can (admittedly, some guys do that, but not all of us), we are programed to attempt to have sex with all the girls that we can. There're guys who can control themselves prety well, but others have trouble doing so, and its fairly difficult to work against the genetic code. Also, Ican almost guarantee that most of the guys you've had relationships with have had afew things in common. There're certain things that women are genetically programmed to strive for ina possible mate. The problem with that is all women are programmed (on one level) to want men with those features. For instance, this isnt sexist, studies have been done by credible scientific institutes: Women are programmed to be attracted to men who appear to have power, and who appear to have traits that would make them seem "dominant" on one level or another. Once again, by virtue of these traits, powerful dominant males of this species used to run things differently... What Im getting at, is that the very factors that make men attractive, in many instances, also make us more likely to attempt to cheat, and that's how things are on an evolutionary standpoint. All men are horny pervs, and guy who tells you otherwise is just ashamed to admit it. By this nature... shits tough. Nice guys do exist, I can guarantee you. The thing is, we're not always the "pick of the litter" or some other such thing. We're harder to find, and for "some reason" (the above stated things), we generally dont always come across at attractive. I'm a nice guy, people always say that to me, I strive to be nice, caring and understanding. But as a friend of mine once put it "I think you're always just seen as the 'Gay Friend'." Nice guys are out there... women just dont always see us as good potential relationship material.