It's not wrong for your mother to think the way she does. I'm going to make an assumption that it's for a reason even if it's not a good one. Your Mom is wrong however, to think that you should live your life according to how she feels about anything. Anyone, regardless of who they are, who tries to dictate who you should love based on their preferences does not have your best interests at heart.
Listen, I know you don't want to lose your family but think of what kind of life you're going to have if you let them control it. Today it may be the partner you choose for yourself but tomorrow it could be your career or your religion.
If you want to stay with this guy and your Mom decides she doesn't want to see you anymore then she's the one that's going to pay for it in the long run. She's going to miss out on seeing the kind of person her daughter is going to become and even the chance to know her own grandchildren if it comes to that. In order to get that point across you're going to have to stop thinking of her as the woman who raised you and start seeing her as she is; an equal. You're both adults now, and she doesn't have the right to tell you how to live you're life just like she doesn't have the right to tell any other adult how to live theirs. Tell her that if she wants to have any kind of relationship with you in the future she's going to do it on your terms. She has much more to lose than you do.
IIN to think about ending a relationship bc my family don't approve
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It's not wrong for your mother to think the way she does. I'm going to make an assumption that it's for a reason even if it's not a good one. Your Mom is wrong however, to think that you should live your life according to how she feels about anything. Anyone, regardless of who they are, who tries to dictate who you should love based on their preferences does not have your best interests at heart.
Listen, I know you don't want to lose your family but think of what kind of life you're going to have if you let them control it. Today it may be the partner you choose for yourself but tomorrow it could be your career or your religion.
If you want to stay with this guy and your Mom decides she doesn't want to see you anymore then she's the one that's going to pay for it in the long run. She's going to miss out on seeing the kind of person her daughter is going to become and even the chance to know her own grandchildren if it comes to that. In order to get that point across you're going to have to stop thinking of her as the woman who raised you and start seeing her as she is; an equal. You're both adults now, and she doesn't have the right to tell you how to live you're life just like she doesn't have the right to tell any other adult how to live theirs. Tell her that if she wants to have any kind of relationship with you in the future she's going to do it on your terms. She has much more to lose than you do.