Is it normal to tell your girlfriend she's losing her looks?

My girlfriend and I are both very active people, we both play college sports and bond through our health and fitness nut-ness. But recently she's been really dropping the diet and she's gained almost 10 pounds over the last few months. She still has her shape but she looks and feels softer.

I don't like to think of myself as shallow, but a big part of our relationship is our looks. She's gained weight before and I just let it slide cause she got back in the grind soon after. Is it always inherently wrong to tell your partner they're becoming less attractive to you?

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  • Murun

    Somebody else will be finding her more attractive for the very same reasons you're finding her less attractive.
    I do hope she meets him.

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    • AmbitiousPrincess

      Me too. This one sounds like a complete asshole. What happens when she gets pregnant will he find her less attractive for having his child and all the human side effects that come with it?

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  • MrsEdGein

    To quote the movie Beauty And The Beast: "True beauty is found within".

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    • EccentricWeird

      I would thumb this down if I could.

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  • JonathanOo

    A big part of your relationship is based off looks??? Well that explsins why her gaining weight matters to you. If that's a condition for you to love her then by all means let her know. But it does show that you're not loving her selflessly for who she is no matter what...

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  • youwillgotohell

    Go and take a look in the mirror one more time, motherfucker. You are probably hundred times worse looking then your girlfriend. Go and swing for the other party, cocksucker.

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  • yesnomaybeso

    Honestly, I was gonna say no straight away, but if your relationship is so based on sports and diets, iunno anymore.

    "but a big part of our relationship is our looks" sounded so bad. it sounds like a fake relationship im sorry. isnt your partner the best one to look ugly with? also the prettiest sometimes, but also your worst sometimes

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  • Aries

    Tell her i said she looks beautiful!

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    • AmbitiousPrincess

      Me too!!!

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  • Yeah that's very very very disrespectful. 😠😠

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    • nikkiclaire

      To add: Too many women think its ok to be fat. It's not. It is not attractive or healthy and sorry but you do not have a glandular disorder that makes you obese. Stop lying to yourselves.

      I treat 100's of fat women a month with terrible hips, knees and backs because they are fat.

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      • llamalover

        you're right, It's not okay to be fat- but it's also not okay to be too skinny, many people confuse chubby and fat, and that is the problem.

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        • nikkiclaire

          I agree that skinny is bad as well. On the chubby thing, i don't think you should be chubby either because ultimately it's fat that makes you chubby right?

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          • llamalover

            but some people have slow metabolisms, are something that makes it harder to lose weight, and there is nothing wrong with liking your food, I thing being chubby or curvy is fine, so long as you are healthy.

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            • nikkiclaire

              True.

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      • Omg this is crazy. πŸ˜•πŸ˜•πŸ˜•πŸ˜•πŸ˜•

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        • nikkiclaire

          What is crazy? That being overweight is unattractive to the majority of people, that it causes health problems? That I actually said the truth without candy coating it.

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    • nikkiclaire

      Yeah but it's also false advertising. This guy sounds like a jerk but he signed up to be with a skinny girl. Not a whale.

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      • I wouldn't call her a whale. She went from 120 lbs to 132 lbs in 3 months. But you're right about signing up for a skinny girl, shame on me.

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        • nikkiclaire

          I use the term whale a lot sorry but thats a big jump in a short period of time. She isnt preggo is she?

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          • She better not be

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            • nikkiclaire

              Food for thought.

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  • WhiteTile

    You sound like a bitch, but maybe you should tell her if she doesn't keep up on her looks and fitness that your not gonna be attacted to her, so she can find someone who's not a bitch... Or just buy her some steroids so she can be a lazy ass and still fit

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    • So ignorant. You still work out when you're on roids, everybody gives them a bad rep but they're not. Nothing lazy about steroid use. Whatever.

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      • WhiteTile

        You don't have to work as hard and it gives you the ability to also, and you can eat like a fucking pig

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  • bubsy

    Tell her you noticed that she's gained weight, and that she's less attractive now. If she goes off the handle, make her your ex. But if she agrees and tries to improve, she's good marriage material.

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  • EccentricWeird

    The trick is to have a girlfriend who was fat to begin with.

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  • Tealights

    You're a dime-a-dozen, because almost every guy thinks the same way, even the less attractive ones who are just as out of shape or more.

    I just hope she's not pregnant by you.

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  • WhiteTile

    She's probably gaining weight on purpose because she suspect's you of being like a bitch and wants you to dump her because she is letting me fuck her straight up the pussy and likes me better cause I'm not a bitch

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  • Justmehere

    I went through this with a hot, honestly gorgeous, female friend a little bit ago. She was always thin, made-up, long, sometimes angled nails, great, sexy smile, high cheekbones..Then, she seemed to gain weight in a hurry and lost the stylish/hot look, not make herself up as much if at all, cut or bit her nails down to a nub..Just let herself go. Still the sexy smile, but now on a heavier, less attractive face and body.

    Instead of asking or telling her, I figured she knew, so, I commented "Did you lose weight, Jenn?", angling for some sort of answer as to what happened to Hot Jenn. She said "I'm trying" with a laugh. I then asked, as I knew she'd done these things as I had, if she'd been to a business networking event (one woman pretty much had her there, with others, for show..pretty girls dress up the place). She said no, got busy, and "too many late-night trips to the diner".

    I don't know why she let herself go, but do know she had bouts of depression and overeating. Still a beauty, and I hope she loses the weight and gets back to being Hot Jenn, but I'd never tell her she wasn't anymore. Think she knows anyway, and is trying to return to her slender, fit, hot self.

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  • I would try to help her in this respect, rather than telling her. It's normal to be worried about this or to want her for her body. As some people choose to gain weight, other may choose not to be with them, simple as that. Usually ugly fat fucks will be offended by this, but it's normal not to want a blob who won't do shit to be healthy and sexy and who prefer to be a fat slug crawling and barely breathing. Ok, I've exaggerated a little cuz I hate fat bastards, but the point is that you should encourage her to lose weight instead of leaving that just as her responsibility. Take care of your woman. Peace.

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