Is it normal to still need closure??

So I was with this guy for over a year, and we broke up 3 months ago. I broke up with him becuase he lied and cheated, but instead of him just letting me go he humilated me by sending nude pics of me to my family, slandering me to my boss at work, and contacting all my friends to tell them "how I really felt about them". I cut off all contact, and never retaliated although I couldve- I just wanted it to be over. I was fine for a couple of months but now I feel like I'm obsessed with the thought of him needing to apologize, or be sorry for his actions. He treated me like a dog and drug my name through the mud, embarrased me... Yet he's the one going on with a new gf content in his new life. I feel like I'm still stuck here, bitter, and unable to move on. I do t want to be with him and I don't love him anymore... I guess I just feel like an injustice was done to me and he got away scott free. What happened to karma? When will my anger go away???

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  • You need closure.

    Not an apology. Burn all the things he ever gave to you, hold a ceremony [only you or you and a close friend], write him a hate letter and then burn it...

    That is how you can close that dreadful chapter in your life.

    Not only is that important, but it's important to start a new chapter! Pick up a new hobby, get a new job, make a new friend... stop living the post-break up life and start living LIFE.

    He's one person and no one should have that much power over you in your life.

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  • The best revenge is living well. Or shitting in his mailbox. Either one is good.

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  • I'm still waiting for "I'm sorry" it's been three years! Conclude that you don't need it because you don't, sorry means nothing if you have to ask for it! Karma will take care of him, just wait and see. It took karma 18 years to pay back an ex of mine and man oh man did he get it!!! It will happen.

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  • If the past calls send it to voicemail, it has nothing new to say. You're not over him and that's why you want the apology. One day you'll be over him and you won't give a shit whether he apologizes or not. Just don't call him because it's not gonna help you and you're doing so good by not talking to him for 3 months straight! You're a strong person and you don't need his apology. Trust me he'll do the same to her!

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  • Even if he apologizes, you will still be bitter. You just need to let it go and have your revenge by being happy. That would show him he is powerless over u. He is not sorry and is still holding the power here by making you so angry. Take your power back and live your life!

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  • you shoud go and have a big wank

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  • And I totally agree with dodo!!!

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  • It's normal to want that apology... But girl I would want more than that!! I would love to kick the shit out of him! But karma will get to him.

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