Sometimes it is the ones who hurt us the most that we tend to love the most. And although it does not sound healthy, it is quite normal. Your jealousy is derived from the memories you shared with him. It is the past that keeps you hanging on and feeling hurt when you see that your place has been filled by another girl.
Though this man was physically and emotionally abusive towards you, you loved him because you weighed the good times you had with him more heavily than the bad times in your relationship. You allowed the positive to cancel out the negative.
Though it will be hard, moving on is possible. I believe that when you learn to have more confidence in yourself that the journey will become more easier. You have to learn that you are stronger and better off without him. You have to learn to admit to yourself that he didn't love you the way you loved him no matter what he told you.
Somewhere in this world is a guy who will honestly love you. A guy who will never raise his hand at you unless it is to hold you. A guy who will never deliberately try to hurt your feelings and if he does will go insane trying to make it up to you. Somewhere in this world, that sort of guy exists... but it is not your ex.
But before you go looking for that guy, you need to become stronger. And I believe you can and will. :)
Is it normal to still miss my abusive ex
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Sometimes it is the ones who hurt us the most that we tend to love the most. And although it does not sound healthy, it is quite normal. Your jealousy is derived from the memories you shared with him. It is the past that keeps you hanging on and feeling hurt when you see that your place has been filled by another girl.
Though this man was physically and emotionally abusive towards you, you loved him because you weighed the good times you had with him more heavily than the bad times in your relationship. You allowed the positive to cancel out the negative.
Though it will be hard, moving on is possible. I believe that when you learn to have more confidence in yourself that the journey will become more easier. You have to learn that you are stronger and better off without him. You have to learn to admit to yourself that he didn't love you the way you loved him no matter what he told you.
Somewhere in this world is a guy who will honestly love you. A guy who will never raise his hand at you unless it is to hold you. A guy who will never deliberately try to hurt your feelings and if he does will go insane trying to make it up to you. Somewhere in this world, that sort of guy exists... but it is not your ex.
But before you go looking for that guy, you need to become stronger. And I believe you can and will. :)