Is it normal to still love someone who totally f**ked up your life?

Dear Friends;

First of all I am not normal I already knew that since I was younger but anyways. So I feel in love with a guy and it all started very good, he was like prince charming and my everything. At that time I fell in love with him like crazy. Later on I started to find out he is flirting with other girls and then he cheated on me, I freaked out but then I forgave him cause I loved him so much. Later on the relationship became very abusive, he started being nasty, telling me he just likes to have sex with me but he doesnt love me; screwing other girls who I know, messing up my relationships with my friends and my co-workers. Telling gossips about me and make the whole story look like we never had a relationship and I was his stalker. Which wasn't the case. I know all of the above are enough to call a guy a big jerk and leave him behind. But every time I tried to go away he would come back all sweet and nice and I could not resist. Also we had an incredible sexual chemistry. But one day he stops talking to me and there is no way to reach him. And I keep asking to myself why am I keep being hurt, still trying to prove myself to this guy; why do I want him back and most importantly why do I still love him? I know it's not normal but I dunno what to do about this cause he's stuck in my mind and I can't love anyone else for a really long time.

Is It Normal?
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  • if hes hitting you and shit your a dumb ass for staying with the bastard

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  • Yeah shes called my MOM.

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  • Daamn girl. I'm sorry I really don't know what to say. My bestfriend is in the same situation and I hate her bf so much. But she won't leave him cuz everytime she does he says baby don't leave your the love of my life come back. Worse part is she's pregnant with his child. But noone can tell yu what to do only u will realize that he is no good for you and decide to leave.

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  • Honestly, no one can tell you what to do about this. You just have to find the courage in yourself to let this guy go on your own. Nothing anyone can say will make you fall out of love with him. Have some self respect! You're wasting your life away on this chump.

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  • Contrary to the above story. I am a guy and I have had the same/similar sort of thing with a girl in the past.

    We had this amazing sexual chemistry, were always passionate with each other (this was in love and hate) and we had an incredible relationship for about a year.

    Then it all started to not work out, the balance started to teeter towards more arguments etc... However we loved one another and it was hard to admit it. She didn't at all but I did, but I couldn't stop going back there despite saying it wasn't working out and that we should probably break up...

    I broke up with her but we couldn't leave one another alone, I felt like such a horrible guy for letting this happened because I had broke it off with her...

    After a while with a little help from my friends I realised she was manipulating me.. she wasn't willing to let go, she could probably see it wasn't working but was way to afraid to end another relationship so she was doing/saying things to keep me coming back.

    It all ended really badly and we haven't spoken to one another for around 1 1/2 years. The whole thing has gone on for a total 4 years. I kind of hate her for it all happening like it did...

    But you know... the funny thing is, im not in love with her however I do completely love her.

    So, I think its normal to feel the way you do... you've just got to think to yourself, 'Is it good for me?'. Think hard... what is best.

    If its not good, if its not the best way to feel, the next step is 'how do i move on'...

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    • Well thanks a lot for your comment but the thing is you say you love her. Then why don't people try to work things out by communicating rather than running away expecting some miracle happen. I am moving on yes but him still in my mind can not help it.

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  • I didn't even have to read your story to guess that your a girl. Why in hell do women find the biggest loser they can find and just STAY with them when good guys like myself struggle to find a good or at least an average girl.

    A good man will do so much more for you, leave this asshole for good and find one. Also, stop listening to him just because he make you moist down below and find a guy who is your best friend more. That is what I did, and I am marrying her later on and we never argue, I am truly happy.

    However, you are a dumb girl who cares more about sexual energy than a caring soul so you kind of deserve what he does to you.

    Why, BECAUSE YOU DECIDE TO STAY WITH THE CREEP.

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  • NO comment?

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    • thats hard cause i fell in love with someone who wasnt even mine really you just need to think about all the hurtful things and just forget(:

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