Is it normal to still get hit by your parents and not be a minor?

My dad apparently still hits me. Recently he smacked me in the face and punched my arm all because I called him rude and stupid for changing the channel while I was still watching it. I believe he did it on purpose to bug me because he just wants attention and so I told him and he got all angry since he doesn't like to be called out (I thought by now, living with me you would know that you will get called out by me). I also believe that he just got really angry because he's been holding all that anger in for a while now due to a tragedy and been wanting to hit something so I guess he decided hey here's my chance. What really annoys me though is how could you possibly still hit me for discipline when I am no longer a minor (yeah sorry Im not your little one anymore as much as you'd like it to be that way again so you can control me all you want) and when Ive accomplished all these things? because that's basically what he meant to do is discipline me when it really doesn't work you guys so for parents who do it, YOU'RE THE FOOL. I thought we grew out of that phase and then he hits me? like nothing has changed for you and you're still living in the past? HELLO LOOK AT ME. I was about to call 911 but my mom's like don't make it a big deal, but um he hit me? Before, he could get away with it cause I had no voice, I was small and even then he shouldn't have touched me. Seriously if it happens again I'm kicking his ass out of my life with the help of that phone call. I don't care, he needs a reality check.

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  • How can he apparently still hit you? Apparently implies that you aren't really aware if he does or not.

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    • Exactly, wasn't aware that he would still hit me at my age or just now in general. I thought we both grew out of that phase already but APPARENTLY not.

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  • On one hand, I dont think anyone should hit anyone unless its for self-defense.
    On the other hand if your parents bought the TV and your living in their house, they get first dibs on what channel they would like to watch.
    I would recommend moving out.

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    • I hope you're not implying that it's ok for him to hit her because of that?

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      • Absolutely not. As stated above, no one should hit anyone unless it is for self defense. This statement stands -
        Having said that, calling your father rude and stupid because he wants to change the channel on his own TV is consequently rude and stupid.
        Most likely the son doesn’t have any respect for his father who from time to time decides to slap him around - this is completely understandable. However, to get respect you must give respect. So I think that in this families case (as dysfunctional as it may seem) the loss of respect is cyclical.

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  • The way you type alone makes you sound hittable.

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  • My mother would punch any one of the five us at the first excuse! I agree with all the others, move out and then you can watch what you want, when you want.

    It's a sad relationship that you explode with your mouth and apparently your dad does with his fists! Maybe if you understand that he is dealing with grief then you should have been more compassionate.

    You haven't stated your age coz I think you know that you were behaving like a young brat - it's not something a more mature person would do. In future, try appealing to his kind side eg. 'aw dad :o( I was watching that'.

    You don't want to cry wolf by calling the police, they've real crimes to see to!!

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  • My parents punished me physically until I was 18 and moved far far away from them.

    Unlike you though, I NEVER lipped them off. I was too afraid.

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  • I,d turn around and kick the fuck out of him.

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  • Aw mate. Don't stand for any more. It's not right and you don't deserve it. There's discipline and then there's hitting in the face. Totally different and NOT cool.

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  • You were mouthing off to him. I'm 31 and if I went to my dads house and mouthed off to him he'd pop me in the mouth too. Respect your parents. If you don't like it move out.

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  • He should not have hit you, but you should have not called him rude and stupid. It is his house, his TV, and if you don't like it move out. However, he should not just turn the TV while you were watching it unless that is all you do (watch TV). You could have replied in a nice manner and not be so rude. It does take two. Do you not have more than one TV? The cops is a stupid alternative.

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  • You'll start on the path to manhood when you stand up for yourself by fighting him, regardless of winning or losing. If you call the cops instead, you will be showing that you will always be a coward and don't possess the self-respect or will to defend yourself.

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  • If you're an adult you shouldn't be mouthing off to your parents.

    If you dislike how they treat you I would recommend moving into your own place.

    And of course to stop mouthing off.

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  • Both you and your father were in the wrong. If you still live with them, then its time you move out and you won't have to deal with your parents. Parents (not all but most) have a lot more respect for you if you are on your own living in your own place. If they moved in with you in your own place, then its time for you to have an adult conversation about how you all are going to try to respect each other and establish boundaries so you can all get along (and if this is the case and he smacks you again, he's gotta go).

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  • the first sentence just confused me. your father "apparently" hits you?? sounds like a bunch of bullshit to me and IF he still hits you then you need to do as your told or move out.

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  • You're such an asshole... He should hit you everytime you mouth him off like that. Poor guy =[ I would never talk to my dad like that, you should just leave if you don't like being there.

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  • It wouldn't be acceptable even if you were a minor.

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  • How old are you? You should try to find a way to move out..if you said he's dealing with psychological issues, (that is still not a reason to hit your child) then there might be something that has changed in him..or something that he needs to work out with himself and perhaps some counseling. There also seems to be like, some unresolved feelings you have towards him as well. Btw, don't call your parents rude or stupid. It doesn't deserve a hit, but you shouldn't say things like that over something so little like changing the channel. I think calling the cops would cause too much drama and even add more to the fire..

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  • That's assault. If you're over 18 it's assault. Under 18 is child abuse

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  • Regardless of your age, it should be acceptable. Is there someone that you can talk to about this or someone you could stay with? You shouldn't have to continue living in such a toxic situation. You need to learn a self-defence. Something like Kung Fu. Be prepared in case your parents try to hurt again.

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  • I would curbstomp by dad if he hit me

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  • Is not ok wether you're a minor or not

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  • Honestly I'd have to say, Man Up and Move Out. Wanna watch your shows? Buy your own T.V. in your own damn house and don't act surprised when another man hits you when you insult him. If anything you should consider it a life lesson, mouth off and get hit. Trust me the guy at the pub you call rude and stupid isn't just going to give you a little smack! You sound like one of these pansy little girls from the latest generations of teens who grew up always getting their way and making excuses for anything they ever did wrong.
    Reality Check: The reason the rest of us move out is so we don't have to deal with this stuff. Take the hint.

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  • You shoudln't call the cops because either way he's your father and you need to respect him, just talk to him about it because even if you did mouth off to him hitting you is abuse and he could get in serious trouble if someone sees it. If he doesn't listen then just move out, if your an adult now you need to star making your life your own and not let others run it for you, i grew up with a very strict step-mother also so i know how it feels. You just need to not let it stop you from making something of your life.

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  • Calling 911 will probably be a mistake because if he's arrested for domestic assault he will be out with in a day or two and you will probably find yourself homeless.

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