Is it normal to still cry over my grandmother's death?

I was off on a orchestra trip last year when my dad called me on my cellphone. He told me that my grandma had been taken off the ventilator. It was the day before my birthday. She died of breast cancer. I didn't get to tell her goodbye because she had been asleep everytime I visited her. Everytime I listen to the song that was her ringtone (Redneck woman) I cry along with the song (Skin)I will just break into tears. Even hearing about her will make me sob. To tell you the truth I'm sobbing right now just telling this story. Is that normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • Totally normal. My grandmother died suddenly in a car accident and I was DEVASTATED!! She raised me and was like my mom. I miss her all the time. I know she's around me but I still miss her all the same. Ur grandmother heard you and still does. Look for signs from her they are there. <3

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  • When my grandmother died I didnt feel any different.

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  • i just lost my grandma 6 months ago and i still break down in tears when ever i pass her picture or even think of her, its completely normal dont feel like just because your were not able to say goodbye to her that it makes you a bad person. our loved ones may infact be physically gone but in heart they are still here. please stay strong youll get through it.

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  • I do the exact same thing when i hear the song i was listening to when my grandpa died. So yes its normal. Also you should look into grief support groups

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  • Of course it's normal. Death affects people badly. And triggers like songs unlock old memories so just try and remember the good days and not worry. Grieving is part of it. : )

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  • Yes it's normal. I still cry when I think of my grandma who passed away 2 1/2 years ago. I feel like she takes care of me from where she is! I miss and love her so so much!!!

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  • Of course it's normal especially if it was someone really close. Also if if you cry whenever your reminded of her it just means that she meant alot to you which just makes it all the more special.

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  • Yeah its normal. I still cry about my dog that passed 3 years ago. Best of luck

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  • It's normal. Maybe you need closure. It sounds like it's taking longer for you to get through her loss, because you know you never had the chance to say goodbye. Maybe talking with someone might help. Maybe a parent, friend, sibling, or counselor?

    I don't know, but I know that you'll get through this. I just lost my grandmother a couple months ago, and honestly, I still cry from time to time. I used to tell her a lot, and now when I have something to tell, and I realize she's not here with me I get upset. My sister was really upset too, because her and her husband just had a baby, and my grandmother passed away like a week before she was born. And we really wanted her to at least stay alive a little while longer to see her. As for my other grandmother, I was a lot younger, and I think of her sometimes too.

    Your grandmother is still with you. Even if you didn't get to say goodbye, her memories will always stay with you forever.

    Sometimes things happen in life where we don't get the chance to say goodbye... :/
    And nobody really knows why, but that's just the way it is. I guess God & the angels just thought it was time to take her home. And I bet she's watching over you right now.

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  • Just because it was awhile ago doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt when you think of her. Yes it usually lessens in time but I still cry when I think of past relatives/animals that have passed. You just gotta not let it consume your every thought or it will bring you down.

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  • of course its normal, you lost your beloved granma. the pain will lessen and you will be left with beautiful memories.

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  • Grow a set of balls!

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