Is it normal to still cry about my dad?

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My father died in April 1991, he was only 44! It's now been over twenty years but sometimes it only feels like yesterday since I was told about his sudden death. It's not very often but when I find a moment to think about him I find I get a little emotional, especially when I see a sad film that concerns someone losing their Dad, or hear particuler sad song that brings back a memory of him, sometimes I even dream about him at night that he is still alive. Is it normal that I still get a little upset over it?

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  • Hoodwink
    10 years ago | pl

    It's as normal as anything could possibly be.

    My parent passed away some years ago and I've only now just begun to be okay with talking about it, even when it proves beneficial to others.

    The grief for me comes periodically. At times it's so near to me I feel like it just happened yesterday and other times it's so far away that it feels as if it happened to another person in another lifetime and all I have of it is the memory, with the feeling of it amputated.

    I'm not sure what advice to offer you. I don't want to tell you to forget them so as to save yourself the grief and yet it doesn't seem right to torture your mind with their memory; it's not what they would want.

    But if it makes you feel better I'm in the same rowboat with you.

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    • Andrew69
      10 years ago | pl

      Thank you for those wonderful warm and comforting words, you're very kind. It's ok most of the time, just when I get a moment I sometimes think about him,
      Best wishes from
      Andrew

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      • Hoodwink
        10 years ago | pl

        You're most welcome. Sometimes we all need to vent. I truly am sorry for your loss, if it means anything.

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  • bananaface
    10 years ago | pl

    How could it not be?

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  • Kura
    10 years ago | pl

    My dad died on August 31st,2003 when I was nine years old. On the anniversary and sometimes at other times, I get a bit sad too. Its hard to not have your parent anymore. :c

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  • spacecowgirl
    10 years ago | pl

    My dad passed away on November 21, 2003. That was nine years ago and I still cry sometimes. I just threw out his pillow last summer, I slept with it and never washed it because it had some part of him on or in it, the pillow actually really helped me for many years. It actually got pretty gross, the pillow that is, so it was time to throw it out... ;-) Time will heal some of the wound but the scar will remain forever. I promise it will get better.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    How did he die?

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