Is it normal to still be a virgin at 28?

I didn't vote. I'm the exact male version of yourself: 28, some fooling around (granted that was over 5 years ago), but never anything meaningful. I don't want to say it's not normal because then I'd not be normal, but I also think that we're beyond the 1st (if not 2nd?) standard deviation that puts us in a small minority.

Being post 25 and never having had sex or a real relationship is a lonely experience that I think a lot of people don't understand. Though I do think being female that you might have it a bit easier since from the male perspective it's rather emasculating - I can't talk about it in real life with anyone less I get ridiculed and questioned about my sexuality. "Just get it over with" is what I hear most often reading through articles/stories/forum posts. Like it's something that can be easily accomplished and should be done as soon as possible but, for me, I just want that experience of having an emotional connection with someone.

For me it's affected my self worth and how I perceive myself. I never really thought I was too unattractive before, but after so many years of being alone maybe there's a reason for it? Maybe I'm unattractive, or a bad person? If no one wants to even hook up with me, then that may mean I'm not attractive physically and if no one wants to date me then that may mean I'm unattractive emotionally/mentally.

I also worry that I've missed the boat and that now I don't have enough experience to even get a girlfriend or have sex. After all, people like those with experience, right? And if you don;t have it then it's going to be weird and awkward. I'm worried that that's just how it is and there's not much that can be done...

This wasn't very cheery or uplifting, but I guess I just wanted you to know that there are others out there in a similar situation. Also, for what it's worth, I wouldn't think that there's anything wrong with you.

I do have a friend who is in the exact same situation, same age. She's hot, cute, smart but she's asian and not born here. She feels exactly the same way you do. At first i though this is weired but when i found your story this could be possible but rare, dont u think?

Wow, I'm the male version of you and a year younger! lol. (Although I got one night stood that took my virginity, it was horrible because she didn't help me or tell me what to do or anything, and afterward she left ><) Single life sucks, but finding someone who doesn't throw out the "Just friends" line is hard. Especially when you read and see so many people together. I don't think you've missed the boat. I think your being careful. And in my opinion, careful is better than a broken heart. Any guy you find thats worth being with will entirely understand its new for you, and it won't be a problem. And I promise you, any guy who doesn't do his very best to understand that, and even do his part to help, isn't worth it at all. Sex is supposed to be special. People just don't feel that way anymore.