Is it normal to stay with someone even though...

Is it normal to stay with someone even though you may have lost your attraction to them because tou like the person they are even though you have lost your attraction after a couple months?

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  • Depends on what you mean by "lost attraction". If you refer to the initial borderline insane infatuation you feel for someone when you "fall in love" than yes it's normal because that always fades away after 2-3 months. It's simply a chemical reaction involving various hormones and neurotransmitters that can't be sustained for longer than that.

    Scientists have come up with the theory that this reaction occurs and is sustained just long enough for a male to impregnate a female. Sort of makes sense but you'd think it should last ~12+ months to make people stick together long enough to ensure the offspring survives the actual birth and a few months of infancy.

    When this initial "crush" fades, you're (hopefully) left with a deeper emotional and intellectual love for your partner. If not, move along.

    God I'm so f'ing scientific and dull, hope I didn't ruin anyones romantic notions of love.

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  • yep. It's called marriage.

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  • We've been dating for 5plus months I think we fell in love

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  • depends are you asexual? Maybe its time to just be friends? If it doesnt work and you guys cant move on try something new? See if she or he is attracted to herself or his self. if there is something they want to change and you think it would make them more attractive support them; though you should support them either way lol.

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  • If you lost attraction what's the point in wasting theirs and your time?

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  • depends are you asexual? Maybe its time to just be friends? If it doesnt work and you guys cant move on try something new? See if she is attracted to herself or his self. if there is something they want to change and you think it would make them more attractive support them; though you should support them either way lol.

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  • Yes I believe it's normal...are you saying that you don't see them as being attractive? But you still see who they are and love who they are? Because if that's the case then yes I believe that it's right to stay because you love who they are instead of their appearence. Good looks don't last forever anyways, we will all be old and wrinkley before we know it and our personalities will be the things that make us who we are. Not our looks :) lol having a good heart and a virtuous personality is the most important thing. So be with the person who has those traits also!! :):)

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  • You should be honest with the other person. Give them an opportunity to find someone who will love them & be attracted to them. You don't deserve to be with this person so it's best you move on.

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  • it's normal and it happens. time to move on though.

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  • gfy

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  • That happend to me I'm the guy so no idea how it happens il I know is we are now still doing it hardcore but shes not Pregnate I know a lot of ways to prevent it like sex in the shower

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