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Don't want to be alone? I love my boyfriend but I'm not in love with him, do you know what I mean? He's a good man but I need something more. Something different.
Don’t lead someone on if you don’t love them. I also dislike being alone but I dislike hurting others even more when they don’t deserve it.
It's not really abnormal because unfortunately a lot of people do this, but it's not healthy or fair for either of you.
You should really learn to create your own happiness that isn't dependent on whether or not you are in a relationship, and learn to be alone so that you can better focus on finding the right match for you rather than getting into relationships just for the sake of not being alone. You will never be happy with anyone else if you can't be happy with yourself.
It is also unfair to string him along if you don't love him. You both deserve to find real, mutual love, and this is only holding you back.
Everyone's advice is great, but let's go a different direction with this.
You love him, but not in love with him, yet he's a good person who hasn't done you wrong. Who are you giving up? Rhetorical question, and I'm not talking about his name or job title, but rather the person he is.
I'm not saying you should force yourself to stay in the relationship because he's a good person, by all means go if you must. But, are you leaving for a good reason? Do you know what you want exactly? What makes him so undesirable to you? Are you sure it's not because you two are stuck in a routine? Is there room for growth? All rhetorical questions to make you think, so you don't need to answer them publicly.
What you're feeling is super common, because a lot of us simply lose interest for various reasons. My point being, really understand what you're throwing away and why. You don't want to be old and haunted by regrets of a foolish decision made lightly. There are countless stories of people who left their partner for something mundane as, "I just ain't feeling it, you know? She's not -insert adjective here- enough." To only leave, go through years with wrong people that are either crazy, abusive, cynical, etc to only make a full circle back to, "Why did I leave Jessica... I miss her so much, but she's now happily married with 3 kids. That could have been us..."
So it's fine to leave him, but make sure you can handle the possibility of losing him for good someday.
Unfortunately this is all too common, its harder for females to breakup with their bf especially when that bf doesnt care or is enough, loneliness is a fear factor and WILL happen when you do breakup but i assure you it is short term pain and will be perfect for the long run when a guy enters your life who makes you feel good abt yourself
Do yourself and your boyfriend a favour and get out of this relationship or if he agrees, at least have a break while you work out what you really want. This situation is unfair to both of you.
You could ask him if hes ok with swinging. Me and my wife did that once and it made things interesting again. I loved her too much to leave. We been together since highschool but I hadnt been with many other girls.
Cheat on him until you find someone you like. That's how most people who are insecure about being alone do it.
Yea you need more of an exiting man, a man who can fuck you real good, a man with a hint of danger, a better looking man, a man with a huge cock.