We say "you might break up, you say "we know we never will!", even though every young couple in love says that and they always do.
We say "you're not mature enough", you say "you don't know me!".
We say "you can't afford it", you think it'll be fine, and someone else will just pay for it.
Can you see where I'm going? As much as I deeply hate saying other people aren't mature enough to do things, I don't think you're mature enough to have a kid yet. You're right, I don't know you and neither does anyone else here, but from the answers you give you don't sound like you understand the consequences of having a kid this early on in your life with someone you've only been with for almost 8 months.
Take a step back and wait for a while. Ask your parents about what it's like having a kid, or ask his parents. They'll tell you how tough it can be. Talk it through with your friends, ask them if they think having a kid at 18 is a sensible thing to do.
A kid takes up at least 18 years of your life. That's the same as your entire life so far. It's a huge amount of time and effort, and there's no going back. By the time you've finished raising that kid, you'll be into your mid-thirties. That will be your youth GONE. And if you think you'll have the time to have fun and do all the things you do now while you're raising that kid, think again. The kid will be the centre of your life for YEARS.
Is it normal to start trying for a baby at 18?
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We say "education", you say "I don't wanna!".
We say "over-population", you say "I don't care!"
We say "you might break up, you say "we know we never will!", even though every young couple in love says that and they always do.
We say "you're not mature enough", you say "you don't know me!".
We say "you can't afford it", you think it'll be fine, and someone else will just pay for it.
Can you see where I'm going? As much as I deeply hate saying other people aren't mature enough to do things, I don't think you're mature enough to have a kid yet. You're right, I don't know you and neither does anyone else here, but from the answers you give you don't sound like you understand the consequences of having a kid this early on in your life with someone you've only been with for almost 8 months.
Take a step back and wait for a while. Ask your parents about what it's like having a kid, or ask his parents. They'll tell you how tough it can be. Talk it through with your friends, ask them if they think having a kid at 18 is a sensible thing to do.
A kid takes up at least 18 years of your life. That's the same as your entire life so far. It's a huge amount of time and effort, and there's no going back. By the time you've finished raising that kid, you'll be into your mid-thirties. That will be your youth GONE. And if you think you'll have the time to have fun and do all the things you do now while you're raising that kid, think again. The kid will be the centre of your life for YEARS.
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BLAh81
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So true.