You have been incredibly rude to people who are trying to help you. If you wanna screw up your life, go for it. But don't screw up the kids life just because you're too selfish and immature to wait until you're ready to have children.
Take a word of advice from those who are older and more world wise. There have been some wonderful people telling you why this is a bad idea and you've been very rude to them.
A 7 month relationship is nothing. Barely any time at all. That's why "if by some miracle". Come talk to us about committment once you've been in a relationship for a year or two.
And how do you plan on getting a job? You can work out of high school yes, but why not at least do an online degree or a two year program? How will you support yourself if you and your fiance break up?
I'm not being rude to anyone but you. Because you act like you fucking know me.
I'd like to get a job before we have a baby.. so that's what I'm TRYING to do. I'm not getting accepted because I have no experience..
We both agreed that we'd like to wait till we get a place before trying. Ok? Happy??
Yes, 7 months isn't that long, but you don't know what we feel. Trust me, you don't. It's literally such a STRONG feeling that we are meant to be.
What's the point of a degree?? I mean really? What better job am I gonna get? Plus, I SUCK at school.. do you really think I can pass in college? I'm at the END of my senior year, and I'm having my family help me with it.. Mostly because it's stuff that makes absolute no sense at all whatsoever.. but still.. I don't think I can have my family helping with college, do you?
We will NOT break up! Stop saying that!! We won't! We already know we won't! We even joke that we can't because if we'd break up, it'd be the other person, and since we both refuse to get there, we won't break up. haha! There is NO break up in our future, ok? So just take that out of your theory.
I can't tell you how I feel, but I can tell you that every young couple when they're in love says the same thing. I knew I was going to marry my first boyfriend and fuck anyone who would tell me otherwise... except we only lasted 9 months. I know you don't want to imagine that possibility, but you should plan for the worst anyway, make sure you can stand on your own two feet.
Let's look at it another way, if he loses his job. It's hard without experience, especially with the market being such shit right now. How are you with computers? A call center or customer service job would be a good place to work to get experience, they take people fresh out of school all the time.
And I don't know you, but I've felt similar to how you feel before, and I know how it worked out for me. I know many people who have said the same things. Many people don't know themselves well enough to know that they don't mean it.
This is something I feel pretty strongly about, so I'm sorry for coming at you the way I did. I was put up for adoption because my mother was 19 and in no way fit to raise me, and I'm grateful for it because I've had more opportunities. My adoptive parents were older, they worked and saved for years to be able to have me.
But I know you want the best for your child, and so do I. Which is why I'm reccomending waiting, at least until the two of you are in a better place financially. A house would be a good idea, but I don't know what the market is like where you live. Where I'm at right now mortgage is cheaper than rent, and there are so many foreclosures going for dirt cheap. That's kinda why I was thinking house, but depending on where you live that wouldn't be an option.
First off, he's not my first boyfriend. I know how I've felt about previous boyfriends and I've NEVER felt like this.
I know how to work computers, but I hate talking to people I don't know. That's a big problem I'm having with getting a job..
I know myself VERY well. And just because I'm young, doesn't mean I don't know myself. I've been through a lot to get to this point, and I've learned more about myself in the past 3 years than my own mother has her entire life. (she said so herself)
Rent is a lot cheaper here... My brother just moved out last week and he got an apartment. My parents were looking for a house, but it's too expensive here.. And we're not even in a big place! Most of the places are crap.. but an apartment is at least something.
My parents lived in an apartment when they had both me and my brother. They didn't get an actual house till I was 3. An apartment will do
Is it normal to start trying for a baby at 18?
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"If by some miracle" ????? wow...
No. I will not go to school. I've got my high school to go by. I'm NOT going to college
A HOUSE is more expensive.. So we're gonna get an apartment
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You have been incredibly rude to people who are trying to help you. If you wanna screw up your life, go for it. But don't screw up the kids life just because you're too selfish and immature to wait until you're ready to have children.
Take a word of advice from those who are older and more world wise. There have been some wonderful people telling you why this is a bad idea and you've been very rude to them.
A 7 month relationship is nothing. Barely any time at all. That's why "if by some miracle". Come talk to us about committment once you've been in a relationship for a year or two.
And how do you plan on getting a job? You can work out of high school yes, but why not at least do an online degree or a two year program? How will you support yourself if you and your fiance break up?
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I'm not being rude to anyone but you. Because you act like you fucking know me.
I'd like to get a job before we have a baby.. so that's what I'm TRYING to do. I'm not getting accepted because I have no experience..
We both agreed that we'd like to wait till we get a place before trying. Ok? Happy??
Yes, 7 months isn't that long, but you don't know what we feel. Trust me, you don't. It's literally such a STRONG feeling that we are meant to be.
What's the point of a degree?? I mean really? What better job am I gonna get? Plus, I SUCK at school.. do you really think I can pass in college? I'm at the END of my senior year, and I'm having my family help me with it.. Mostly because it's stuff that makes absolute no sense at all whatsoever.. but still.. I don't think I can have my family helping with college, do you?
We will NOT break up! Stop saying that!! We won't! We already know we won't! We even joke that we can't because if we'd break up, it'd be the other person, and since we both refuse to get there, we won't break up. haha! There is NO break up in our future, ok? So just take that out of your theory.
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I can't tell you how I feel, but I can tell you that every young couple when they're in love says the same thing. I knew I was going to marry my first boyfriend and fuck anyone who would tell me otherwise... except we only lasted 9 months. I know you don't want to imagine that possibility, but you should plan for the worst anyway, make sure you can stand on your own two feet.
Let's look at it another way, if he loses his job. It's hard without experience, especially with the market being such shit right now. How are you with computers? A call center or customer service job would be a good place to work to get experience, they take people fresh out of school all the time.
And I don't know you, but I've felt similar to how you feel before, and I know how it worked out for me. I know many people who have said the same things. Many people don't know themselves well enough to know that they don't mean it.
This is something I feel pretty strongly about, so I'm sorry for coming at you the way I did. I was put up for adoption because my mother was 19 and in no way fit to raise me, and I'm grateful for it because I've had more opportunities. My adoptive parents were older, they worked and saved for years to be able to have me.
But I know you want the best for your child, and so do I. Which is why I'm reccomending waiting, at least until the two of you are in a better place financially. A house would be a good idea, but I don't know what the market is like where you live. Where I'm at right now mortgage is cheaper than rent, and there are so many foreclosures going for dirt cheap. That's kinda why I was thinking house, but depending on where you live that wouldn't be an option.
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First off, he's not my first boyfriend. I know how I've felt about previous boyfriends and I've NEVER felt like this.
I know how to work computers, but I hate talking to people I don't know. That's a big problem I'm having with getting a job..
I know myself VERY well. And just because I'm young, doesn't mean I don't know myself. I've been through a lot to get to this point, and I've learned more about myself in the past 3 years than my own mother has her entire life. (she said so herself)
Rent is a lot cheaper here... My brother just moved out last week and he got an apartment. My parents were looking for a house, but it's too expensive here.. And we're not even in a big place! Most of the places are crap.. but an apartment is at least something.
My parents lived in an apartment when they had both me and my brother. They didn't get an actual house till I was 3. An apartment will do