I was spanked as a child. Even in diapers my mom popped mine and my bros behinds. Why? Through a diaper it doesn't hurt...it's more the shock than anything. Kids have no real sense of time so timeout and taking stuff away doesn't always work. Also, if you take something away 9 times outta 10 the kid forgets about it anyway or would have lost or broken it anyway so it's not a real punishment. When a kid gets older and starts to understand disappointment in mom and dads voice and be bothered by it then ok, but until then the only real thing is a physical consequence - think the rubber band on the wrist that adults use to break bad habits. Should spanking be the first reaction - no. A parent can go overboard and should keep themselves in check, but should it be employed when appropriate? Yes. I do not have a tendency towards violence and I love my parents dearly. My mom is now my best friend. My bro is the same. If Ur lucky enough to have a kid thy responds to verbal reprimands and time-out only...awesome. But I see kids all the time that would not be the disrespectful kids they are if they had a firm hand at home.
I agree. Time out doesn't do much. I remember babysitting for many kids who were given time out, and it never did anything. One child I babysat for was out of control. Her mother told me that she would bite her. She never bit when I stayed with her, but clearly she was out of control. When she was put in "time out", a chair in the corner of the room, she would get back up out of the seat and do what she was told not to do over again. I never put my hands on her, because I would never put my hands on somebody else's child, but if I were the mother I would've given her a spanking, and then sat her down to have a talk about it.
I also found that just sitting down talking with her in a gentle but firm voice worked wonders.
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I was spanked as a child. Even in diapers my mom popped mine and my bros behinds. Why? Through a diaper it doesn't hurt...it's more the shock than anything. Kids have no real sense of time so timeout and taking stuff away doesn't always work. Also, if you take something away 9 times outta 10 the kid forgets about it anyway or would have lost or broken it anyway so it's not a real punishment. When a kid gets older and starts to understand disappointment in mom and dads voice and be bothered by it then ok, but until then the only real thing is a physical consequence - think the rubber band on the wrist that adults use to break bad habits. Should spanking be the first reaction - no. A parent can go overboard and should keep themselves in check, but should it be employed when appropriate? Yes. I do not have a tendency towards violence and I love my parents dearly. My mom is now my best friend. My bro is the same. If Ur lucky enough to have a kid thy responds to verbal reprimands and time-out only...awesome. But I see kids all the time that would not be the disrespectful kids they are if they had a firm hand at home.
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I agree. Time out doesn't do much. I remember babysitting for many kids who were given time out, and it never did anything. One child I babysat for was out of control. Her mother told me that she would bite her. She never bit when I stayed with her, but clearly she was out of control. When she was put in "time out", a chair in the corner of the room, she would get back up out of the seat and do what she was told not to do over again. I never put my hands on her, because I would never put my hands on somebody else's child, but if I were the mother I would've given her a spanking, and then sat her down to have a talk about it.
I also found that just sitting down talking with her in a gentle but firm voice worked wonders.