I used to think that it was right to share absolutely everything with the other person and have him do the same thing. I used to think that I would never have a need for privacy or keeping things to myself.
I was wrong. Dead wrong.
Everybody has a need for privacy, and nobody can deny them that. If they try, they don't respect you or trust you and they're not worth being with.
Personally, I don't have anything to hide from my boyfriend, but that still doesn't mean I want him to go through my emails, facebook conversations, SMS, etc without my knowledge. I don't hide my passwords from him though, and he could access every account I have if he wanted to, but just like he trusts me not to have any bad secrets, I trust him not to read my shit without me knowing.
It's all about thhose two things: respect and trust. They should be mutual and come naturally. If you need to ask for either from your partner, the relationship is pointless.
And FYI: The reason I don't tell or show him everything related to myself is that I don't find everything relevant. I've known him for so long now that I know what he's interested in, and what not. And there's really no point in me telling him what I talked with my girlfriend about yesterday or where I went that day and what I was doing at that time. I'm very selective of what information I give to people, based on their interests, relationhip to me, personality, etc. I don't want to waste mine or anybody else's time, telling them things that have no point being told.
So to sum up: No, if somebody doesn't want to tell you absolutely everything going on in their life, it doesn't automatically mean they're cheating. It might just mean that they don't see the point in it, or that it's private, or unrelated to that person, or whatever. There can be a million reasons not to tell somebody something, no matter how close you are to that person.
Yes, it is disrespectful to snoop through somebody's private property. If you have any suspicions, ask. Simply ask. Don't do anything behind his or her back.
Is it normal to snoop throught your lover's phone
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I used to think that it was right to share absolutely everything with the other person and have him do the same thing. I used to think that I would never have a need for privacy or keeping things to myself.
I was wrong. Dead wrong.
Everybody has a need for privacy, and nobody can deny them that. If they try, they don't respect you or trust you and they're not worth being with.
Personally, I don't have anything to hide from my boyfriend, but that still doesn't mean I want him to go through my emails, facebook conversations, SMS, etc without my knowledge. I don't hide my passwords from him though, and he could access every account I have if he wanted to, but just like he trusts me not to have any bad secrets, I trust him not to read my shit without me knowing.
It's all about thhose two things: respect and trust. They should be mutual and come naturally. If you need to ask for either from your partner, the relationship is pointless.
And FYI: The reason I don't tell or show him everything related to myself is that I don't find everything relevant. I've known him for so long now that I know what he's interested in, and what not. And there's really no point in me telling him what I talked with my girlfriend about yesterday or where I went that day and what I was doing at that time. I'm very selective of what information I give to people, based on their interests, relationhip to me, personality, etc. I don't want to waste mine or anybody else's time, telling them things that have no point being told.
So to sum up: No, if somebody doesn't want to tell you absolutely everything going on in their life, it doesn't automatically mean they're cheating. It might just mean that they don't see the point in it, or that it's private, or unrelated to that person, or whatever. There can be a million reasons not to tell somebody something, no matter how close you are to that person.
Yes, it is disrespectful to snoop through somebody's private property. If you have any suspicions, ask. Simply ask. Don't do anything behind his or her back.