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After being married for many years I can no longer give my wife the intimacy she needs and deserves so I want to find her a secret lover to do this for her pleasure.
I think it is very special when a partner cannot provide sex anymore, that they ensure their spouse can still enjoy it. Guess I'm just different or maybe older.
I also have the same fantasy and talked to my wife about it. And she agrees once we’re in the intimacy but out of bed she says no. But I still want to try it is it normal?
I had fantasies about my girlfriend having sex with other guys she agreed to try it we both happy with it we now go to a swingers club I get to watch her I only have a small penis she deserves to have something big I like her to feel good
I am in kind if the sane boat you are. I can no longer have we with my wife due to medical issues. I can only provide her oral. I have offered her several times to get herself a lover. I even want to watch but she says no every time. Not to me watching but to getting a lover period. I don't think it's right she go without since I cannot perform.
I wouldn't say its normal. However, it is very erotic and intimate to bring another man into the bed with your wife. Some men get great pleasure out of seeing their spouse enjoying another man's cock. Seeing the look of pleasure in her eye as a new cock impales her body can be beneficial to both parties. It does require perfect communication, expectation management, and boundaries. THis is completely different from folks in the swingers social circles but not to far off.
Get a divorce then a three way like this is going to cause a legal clusterfuck in the future.
And what does she think about this idea and how would you not know about the "secret lover" when it seems to be your idea in the first place?
Have you looked (REALLY looked) at why you can no longer give her what you believe she needs & deserves? If by intimacy you mean your sex life with her has gone stale, that's entirely normal in longterm relationships but there are things you can do about it, the first being to TALK about it with her and LISTEN to her.
really try to see if this is something she is interested in first. this may make her unhappy or sad, or it could be something she is very interested in. just ask her first :)
not a very well kept secret if yall knows and are blabbin bout it on the interwebz