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I have been brought up to always take both sides of an argument into account, but I have discovered that This makes many relatively simple conflicts get every hard to deal with. Is it normal to have empathy for both sides In every case?
Thank you All for the support, I am happy to know that This is not considered so much a problem. I'll try to see the more positive aspects of This and use it better.
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It is normal, and know that it is a blessing. Yes, it is a rare trait and often leads to indecisiveness and makes situations more complicated. Use it to your advantage and know that you are the most "understanding" person. If it has caused you social complications, just know that in the real world, people like people that take their side and take their point of view whether they are wrong or right. Just be a good listener, there is no need to explain the other side of the argument and people will appreciate you just for that.
Im the same way but i learned to use it in this fashion and made great friends that always come to me to talk to about all their problems. I dont give them advice unless they ask for it and i dont give them the other side unless they ask for it.
My friends that do ask me for advice i would explain to them how the other person might feel(whoever they have conflict with) about his/her actions and ive been told it helps them out a lot and sometimes renews relationships for them.
Normally I do the same, but if the argument is really personal or something I stand for (for example, if it's about gay marriage or something like that), I tend to have certain views of it. I try really hard to see the other side of the argument simply because I hate arguing. It's pointless.
From the viewer who is watching the argument, it's normal. However, when two people argue, they usually only hear themselves talk.
Pretty sure its called fence-sitting. It's diplomatic to do it, that way you don't piss anyone off taking one side or another, but it also makes you decisive and makes you seem slightly weaker because you don't really have any opinion that you stand up for, socially and diplomatically speaking of course.
If I can maintain calm, I do this naturally. If I get angry, I normally go off on an incoherent rant that deviates further and further from what can be considered relavent. I'm getting over that :)
That seems to be an increasIngly rare quality. Most people are fixated on the justification and righteuosness of their own argument that they overlook the validity of the others perspective.