Yes people do this... I have done this.
Do you think you have doubts about the relationship?
Its probably some subconscious thing....I don't know. But if you want the relationship to continue, you have to be really conscious of what your doing and don't fall into these traps.
I would recommend picturing situations where you find yourself doing these negative things, and then imagine yourself acting in a better way. The way you want to act to replace these sabotaging things you're doing.
You're aware that you're doing this stuff, so now just nip it in the bud!! Stop it before it happens by being conscious in the moment and shifting gears so you don't just find yourself down the same paths.
Boom. You hit the nail on the head. That's where your ...where OUR problem lies. Your partner can't do anything to affect it, it is all within you. You must find out why you don't love yourself, and then Change that so that you do. You owe it to your partner, to everyone you love, and everyone who loves you to be the best that you can be by loving yourself first so that you can love them fully.
I think you're right here. Also in your other post when you spoke about talking to your partner about the problem. That kind of really honest communication, where you have to be almost brutally honest with yourself, to at least let them know you are aware of what you are doing and you're trying!
Well said. It sounds like you can relate to Op very much.
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Yes people do this... I have done this.
Do you think you have doubts about the relationship?
Its probably some subconscious thing....I don't know. But if you want the relationship to continue, you have to be really conscious of what your doing and don't fall into these traps.
I would recommend picturing situations where you find yourself doing these negative things, and then imagine yourself acting in a better way. The way you want to act to replace these sabotaging things you're doing.
You're aware that you're doing this stuff, so now just nip it in the bud!! Stop it before it happens by being conscious in the moment and shifting gears so you don't just find yourself down the same paths.
You can be the person you want to be. Good luck!
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I doubt my ability to love him because I don't even love myself.
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Boom. You hit the nail on the head. That's where your ...where OUR problem lies. Your partner can't do anything to affect it, it is all within you. You must find out why you don't love yourself, and then Change that so that you do. You owe it to your partner, to everyone you love, and everyone who loves you to be the best that you can be by loving yourself first so that you can love them fully.
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I think you're right here. Also in your other post when you spoke about talking to your partner about the problem. That kind of really honest communication, where you have to be almost brutally honest with yourself, to at least let them know you are aware of what you are doing and you're trying!
Well said. It sounds like you can relate to Op very much.