Is it normal to regret divorce?

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I had an affair-basically. My life was perfect..I had the house I wanted, the husband that actually cared and would never hurt me, 3 beautiful kids, money, and my passion for my various hobbies fulfilled. One day I met my now-husband...whom I love...but life is hard. We struggle for money and I have to share my kids from the previous marriage..which I hate. I also have to deal with all the other divorce issues such as living with the fact I have to communicate with my EX forever (because of the kids) Im happier with my now-husband...but un-happier with my now-life. Thoughts>?

PS This is a fairly recent thing...Its been about 2 years...is there a transition period or something?

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Based on 47 votes (38 yes)
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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    "I had an affair"

    So you had a life with everything and ... now you regret losing the money... because you cheated and your new husband isn't as rich?

    Sounds like you should have thought of that before cheating?

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    • hunterdaisie
      12 years ago

      Wasnt really cheating...really. I had filed for divorce months before and started dating before it was final because it looked like it was going to be a long divorce.... Its not the money as much either...its just kinda missing my old life and routine..my kids..my animals...my old house. I def dont miss him though. We had a horrible marriage, fought all the time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I no have retarded brain, sounds like you am retarded.

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  • fralanasko
    12 years ago

    Don't worry hunterdaisie,
    It will be worth it in the long run. Just keep plugging away
    and working on having a new life that's waay better!
    For you, and your kids!

    Dj pattie... I make more than my boyfriend too :)

    High fives to all the professional, minted ladies!

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Its really not that big a deal to make more then a man, what with all the political correctness we have anymore its become very easy for woman to get "ahead" in business or any other industry when they should be worried more about planning out that night's dinner so the man who is out working, which allows the woman to buy the food she is cooking, can come home to a good meal and be well fed.

      Slippers are a nice touch for relaxing after a good meal so dont forget them either.

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      • elenamish
        10 years ago

        the men you are talking about sounds like some retard who doesn't need anything, but food. I am just wondering what kind of job is he doing allowing the wife to buy food she cooks with such retarded brain, which can't even realize that the woman who "so easy" got ahead in business or some other industry makes some money too and doesn't need to be "allowed" to buy food to cook for a retard you are talking about

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Typical woman in all honesty. Worried more about her own happiness when she should have been worried more about getting the laundry cleaned and ironed, making sure the house is clean and that dinner is cooked every night.

    Taken right from the story: My life was perfect, had the house I wanted, husband who cared for me and would never hurt me, 3 beautiful kids, money and passion for hobbies.

    You made your bed now lay in it. For the rest of your life or until you get tired of this new poor dumb bastard and divorce him for someone else.

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    • hunterdaisie
      12 years ago

      Ha lol I made more money than my ex husband. No cleaning etc here...I had hired help for that. Im simply asking if anyone else has regretted aspects of their divorce. Oh--and men are idiots...most of them-in all honesty. Im happier now, just trying to get my life back on track.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        "Men are idiots"

        The ones who get married to woman like you are. Thats for sure.

        The hired help you had was probably a woman anyway, so at least she knew where her place was.

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  • Abnormallynormal
    12 years ago

    Well you know the saying "you'll never know what you had until its gone" and in your case its gone for good.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I'm sure you will settle into your new routine soon enough. You should be glad to get out of a horrible marriage. The kids will grow up faster than you can believe and you won't have to deal with your ex husband.

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  • tiffunny5
    12 years ago

    Divorce may have been the right thing to do, but you may have went about it the wrong way.
    I've been married for 15 years, we have 5 children. My husband cheated on me last year, I would Love to leave him. BUT I must set myself up first. When we started having kids, we both decided that I put my Career on hold so that I could hold down the fort and be here for the kids/him. I'm furthering my education now and paying off all our debt, so not stuck with a bunch of bills and no job/education. I have about 16 months left and IM out of here :D

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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    I know too many people who do the wrong things for the wrong reasons, then regret doing them. I find it difficult to feel bad for them because they know they're doing the wrong things when they're doing them.

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