Is it normal to regret coming out?

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I came out to my mom and now I regret it. She was supportive and everything, but now I really wish I hadn't. When I told her she actually asked me if I was SURE, and said that most people are actually bisexual and all this stuff, like I didn't already know. I think I was ready; I had known for six months, or do most people wait longer than that? I have been known to make rash decisions. I guess part of me feels really lame for coming out when I didn't even need to, because I'm not even seeing anyone (and, actually, have never dated either sex). Everyone says that they feel SOOO much better after they just get it off their chest, but I really don't. Is this normal?

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  • littlemsEMOtional
    12 years ago | pl

    I haven't told my family yet so first off I give u props. After only six months u made one of the biggests steps in your life and I haven't done it (its been three years).

    Second yes its normal to regret it. I regretted telling my boyfriend im bisexual for months but we staid together and I realized I was making a big deal over nothing. Its nothing because I can't help who iam and how I feel. Anyone who chooses to judge me once they know just can't understand.

    Third,I think ill tell my family now. You really got me thinking. :) so....thank you.

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  • tastetheass
    12 years ago | pl

    You'll be better off in the long run, my mate tore her family apart when she told them so yes it is normal for somber people to regret it, but you didn't cause any upset so I think you shouldn't regret it.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago | pl

    It's been 8 years and I haven't come out to my parents lol

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  • Pencey
    12 years ago | pl

    Maybe deep inside you could be thinking.
    Does my mom actually support me in this?
    Even though you know she does..
    And you don't think about it..you know she supports you..she said she supported you..I know exactly where your coming from..you just don't think it was best to tell her even though you thought It was best..

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  • pp2
    12 years ago | pl

    How can u be so sure if u have never done either?

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  • xoxo29
    12 years ago | pl

    Dont regret what u did. You told her how u feel and she was supportive. It's her job as a parent to be concerned for you. Maybe when u actually start to date someone you'll realize that it's not what u wanted or are comfortable with, it's ok to not be sure especially when ur young and don't have any experience either way. Don't feel bad. At least you know ur mom will support u no matter what and she will never judge you no matter what ur final decision may be!

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