It is good to try and give people the benifit of the doubt, and try not to be prejudice, you never know, you might find out you had them all wrong.
But on the other side of things, I think, if you just really can't get along with some one, while it might hurt their feelings, trying to force something isn't going to work either. In the end, it could make you dislike some one even more, and if you really can't get along with that person, you are going to have a hard time making something good out of it.
But, if you really do want to give it a try, to see if you could get around the thing that annoys you enough to get to better know someone, then it's important to let your friends know that you would like to try it. If they are good friends, they might not fully get it, but if they see you are serious, they are more likely to give it a try, unless they have good reason to believe that the situation is not healthy for you. I know there have been people I enjoyed hanging out with, that my actual close friends didn't as much, but they have never had a problem with /me/ doing so, as long as I understand that /they/ are not interested. Even then, some times I've had friends change their minds about some one too because /I/ did.
Stuff like this is hard, and it's really difficult to find a "right" answer. At the end of the day, what you have to decide is if you can walk away with out later regretting it.
Is it normal to refuse love out of pure prejudice?
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It is good to try and give people the benifit of the doubt, and try not to be prejudice, you never know, you might find out you had them all wrong.
But on the other side of things, I think, if you just really can't get along with some one, while it might hurt their feelings, trying to force something isn't going to work either. In the end, it could make you dislike some one even more, and if you really can't get along with that person, you are going to have a hard time making something good out of it.
But, if you really do want to give it a try, to see if you could get around the thing that annoys you enough to get to better know someone, then it's important to let your friends know that you would like to try it. If they are good friends, they might not fully get it, but if they see you are serious, they are more likely to give it a try, unless they have good reason to believe that the situation is not healthy for you. I know there have been people I enjoyed hanging out with, that my actual close friends didn't as much, but they have never had a problem with /me/ doing so, as long as I understand that /they/ are not interested. Even then, some times I've had friends change their minds about some one too because /I/ did.
Stuff like this is hard, and it's really difficult to find a "right" answer. At the end of the day, what you have to decide is if you can walk away with out later regretting it.