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Ever since I was very young (around 11 years old), I've always wanted a baby. I'm now 19, almost 20, and I still really want one. I don't care about a husband or any of that, I only want a child to give him/her anything they desire. To have the love and affections of something you made would be the highlight of my life. Does anyone else feel this way? Is this normal?
Having kids is one of the two preprogrammed main goals of ALL humans, it stems from the basics of evolution, if you have desire to have a kid your genes Will be passed on, if you don't want kids, your evolutionary journey stops with you and you are revealed to be another one of evolution's many dead ends.
I guess what I am trying to say is, yes, it is totally normal, every good and healthy human being wants kids at some time.
And remember, the more dissimilair you and your partner is, the healtier your offspring Will be.
let's have sex, but I will pull out last minute. I hope I succeed in doing so!
I guess its normal. But I hope that the part where you said you'll give him everything he/she desires is not real. Try not to spoil them.
Normal, but you should wait until you're ready. If you want something to take care of now, get a pet (whatever animal you like). They require care & grow to love you, but they don't cry like a baby & won't care so much if you leave for a while.
@Ronan I can't agree with the healthy offspring statement. It is just absurb. Even nature thinks so, by preventing offspring with too dissimilar parents to be conceived(misspelled?), born or able to reproduce(the offspring).
Of anything try to seek a matching partner.
Or a hobby. I would suggest programming or engineering, those both give the joy of seeing ones creations come to life.
Btw brain development in the 20+ is located in the corpus callosum, which is self awereness and such aspects. The areas for responcibility and emotion are located elsewhere and therefore I see no brain development related merit in waiting till 25.
Would you want a donor or adopt? How do you want to manage being a single parent concerning income and role-models? What about a possible [future] partner? Is it nescessary to have one now? What about a pet?
Please wait until your own brain has finished developing before you make such a major decision - at least 25.
You don't have a child to give it everything. You have to discipline it and be at its beck and call 24/7. Please live your own life first and in the meantime, babysit for others a lot.
To be honest with you, I thought I was ready to have a child after having 2 dogs for 8 years, and having to be home at certain times to see to them etc.
BUT I swear that I could've managed 50 dogs easier than I could that one small baby!!!
Get a dog first to see the routine and problems associated with being tied to the house.
Good luck!
Yep!!! He only slept 3 times a day for 20 mins and I had to drive round the town to get him to fall asleep in the car. He went down about 12.30am and woke at 5am until he was 6. He was so hyper no-one in the family offered any help to walk him or even babysit for an evening.
If I tell you the truth - he broke my marriage!!
Only I could love him. Kids are bloody hard :o(
my baby is unbelieveable easy, he slept all night since he was born, he is almost 1 year now, he likes playing for himself n cuddle, hes rly good at everything and learning 2 languages i've never had him babysat though but he is not clingy to me, he is a daddys boy. my hubby werent ready for kids at all and got so scared he sort of wanted me to get an abortion, so i took care of him alone and let him do what he wanted to when he felt comfortable.. my uncle got a baby 5 month older than mine, he is a 'devil' though really tough kid, just shows how very different even babies are, he wakes up 5 in the morning. My son wakes at 10 everyday.
Im 20 btw, got married at 18, baby born at 19. my husband is 21 now. we live in a 4 room house with front/back garden, loft and basement, 2 bathrooms, he pays all im home cleaning, cooking, shopping for groceries, laundry n taking care of the baby. when he is 2 I will start studying again ;)
I am totally delighted for you!!!
Thank God some people have good ones!
Although, I do have to say, my son is a great teenager who loves his mom. At 15 he's never smoked, drank, or had sex with a girl. I've told him plenty of time for all that melarkey :o)
I hope it continues to go well for you!
I had a child on my own at 29 and i did it alone. Doner. So glad i waited so i could live my life and now be able to appreciate my son n raise him right