Positive change requires recognition and acceptance of that which is wrong. If you do nothing but blame others for your own problems, you will never be able to solve them.
It can be hard to see your own faults, especially when you've been living with them for a long time. But, they are glaringly obvious to an outside observer. Granted, I carefully picked certain phrases from your description; but I picked them because I saw a pattern. There is an underlying reason why that pattern is there. Your reply only re-affirms this.
I don't know you, so I have no reason to pick a fight. But, if your husband is as bad as you say he is, that only reflects badly upon you for staying with him for so long. In such case, you should leave him. All this parental friction is going to harm your kids.
Figure out how to live on your own, with your kids. Get someone else to take care of your kids. Go to the women's shelter, if you have to. I don't believe you are sticking around out of "necessity"--there are always options, no matter how bad things get.
But, above all else, get help. Get professional help.
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Positive change requires recognition and acceptance of that which is wrong. If you do nothing but blame others for your own problems, you will never be able to solve them.
It can be hard to see your own faults, especially when you've been living with them for a long time. But, they are glaringly obvious to an outside observer. Granted, I carefully picked certain phrases from your description; but I picked them because I saw a pattern. There is an underlying reason why that pattern is there. Your reply only re-affirms this.
I don't know you, so I have no reason to pick a fight. But, if your husband is as bad as you say he is, that only reflects badly upon you for staying with him for so long. In such case, you should leave him. All this parental friction is going to harm your kids.
Figure out how to live on your own, with your kids. Get someone else to take care of your kids. Go to the women's shelter, if you have to. I don't believe you are sticking around out of "necessity"--there are always options, no matter how bad things get.
But, above all else, get help. Get professional help.