"It usually happens when I start NAGGING..."
"If I throw a FIT..."
"This morning I started RANTING..."
Could it be--just maybe--that YOU have been the source of some of the friction in this relationship?
I am guessing here, but I would suspect that this is NOT how you behaved when you first met him. You have changed. And, he's probably not very happy with this change, with all the nagging, ranting, and fits going on, day in and day out. Something like that would drive ME crazy--that is if I put up with it. But, I wouldn't tolerate such behavior, in the first place.
I don't know what the solution is. You say you want to leave him, but you're sticking around just for the convenience. Is that fair to him?
You seem very troubled and frustrated, right now. No, going into an uncontrollable rage is NOT normal. You need help.
HMMM..NO! Bad Answer! You select a few phrases of mine despite all the details to make me look the wrong one. Your advice is retardulous. Who in their right mind would support a grown person with no initiation of their own without complaint? Would you let a grown person live with you and make you clean up up them and then call you a b**ch in front of your kids for bringing it up? I don't stick around for convenience, I stick around for necessity. The only other option I have is a taking my kids to a woman's shelter for battered woman. Having a husband with no morals is what is not normal and you must be even more of an A-S-S-H-O-L-E than he is because he will at least admit he's wrong while you seem to think what he does is cool and I should let a husband and father act this way without getting upset. F-U
Positive change requires recognition and acceptance of that which is wrong. If you do nothing but blame others for your own problems, you will never be able to solve them.
It can be hard to see your own faults, especially when you've been living with them for a long time. But, they are glaringly obvious to an outside observer. Granted, I carefully picked certain phrases from your description; but I picked them because I saw a pattern. There is an underlying reason why that pattern is there. Your reply only re-affirms this.
I don't know you, so I have no reason to pick a fight. But, if your husband is as bad as you say he is, that only reflects badly upon you for staying with him for so long. In such case, you should leave him. All this parental friction is going to harm your kids.
Figure out how to live on your own, with your kids. Get someone else to take care of your kids. Go to the women's shelter, if you have to. I don't believe you are sticking around out of "necessity"--there are always options, no matter how bad things get.
But, above all else, get help. Get professional help.
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Hmm...
"It usually happens when I start NAGGING..."
"If I throw a FIT..."
"This morning I started RANTING..."
Could it be--just maybe--that YOU have been the source of some of the friction in this relationship?
I am guessing here, but I would suspect that this is NOT how you behaved when you first met him. You have changed. And, he's probably not very happy with this change, with all the nagging, ranting, and fits going on, day in and day out. Something like that would drive ME crazy--that is if I put up with it. But, I wouldn't tolerate such behavior, in the first place.
I don't know what the solution is. You say you want to leave him, but you're sticking around just for the convenience. Is that fair to him?
You seem very troubled and frustrated, right now. No, going into an uncontrollable rage is NOT normal. You need help.
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HMMM..NO! Bad Answer! You select a few phrases of mine despite all the details to make me look the wrong one. Your advice is retardulous. Who in their right mind would support a grown person with no initiation of their own without complaint? Would you let a grown person live with you and make you clean up up them and then call you a b**ch in front of your kids for bringing it up? I don't stick around for convenience, I stick around for necessity. The only other option I have is a taking my kids to a woman's shelter for battered woman. Having a husband with no morals is what is not normal and you must be even more of an A-S-S-H-O-L-E than he is because he will at least admit he's wrong while you seem to think what he does is cool and I should let a husband and father act this way without getting upset. F-U
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Positive change requires recognition and acceptance of that which is wrong. If you do nothing but blame others for your own problems, you will never be able to solve them.
It can be hard to see your own faults, especially when you've been living with them for a long time. But, they are glaringly obvious to an outside observer. Granted, I carefully picked certain phrases from your description; but I picked them because I saw a pattern. There is an underlying reason why that pattern is there. Your reply only re-affirms this.
I don't know you, so I have no reason to pick a fight. But, if your husband is as bad as you say he is, that only reflects badly upon you for staying with him for so long. In such case, you should leave him. All this parental friction is going to harm your kids.
Figure out how to live on your own, with your kids. Get someone else to take care of your kids. Go to the women's shelter, if you have to. I don't believe you are sticking around out of "necessity"--there are always options, no matter how bad things get.
But, above all else, get help. Get professional help.