What is it with that though, why do weak people (like you no offense) have this insatiable need to latch onto strong people? Is it for support or validation? What is it? How can you not have a clue about life after he was gone? Who cares if he was gone? He was just some dude, nothing more nothing less.
What makes you say I havent been in love? I just dont subscribe to the silly romantic philosophies that Hollywood and romance novels give us as "what love is".
Because I believed we were going to be together and get married. He got me pregnant and then left me alone. That's pretty much why I broke down. It wasn't all about us two anymore. I now had to take care of a growing life which he didn't care less about. Trust me though, he really isn't the strong one. I got over it after a few months. He's the one who still contacts me every now and again thinking we can get back together one day. I'm fine, he's not.
But yeah fair enough if you have a different view on what love is actually. Yes, like any usual woman, I do like romance books and films every now again but that really does not give me my total view of love. Nothing from my life will ever be perfect film like, unless you want a drama... When I am in a relationship, I just flow with my feelings. Hollywood does have it wrong yes, because they just do not portray just how much shit love causes. It can totally mess up your life. But then again, my past experience with love certainly does not put me off finding it ever again.
Thank you. I think I got unlucky and picked the wrong person anyway. I should have known better in some ways.
You know when you are with the right person (by right person, I don't mean "the one" business, just someone you know you can have a long term relationship with) when your feelings just flow automatically and you feel totally comfortable just to be yourself with them. That's what I found anyway. If there's any awkwardness, then they are not the one to spend your time with.
Is it normal to question this about relationships?
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What is it with that though, why do weak people (like you no offense) have this insatiable need to latch onto strong people? Is it for support or validation? What is it? How can you not have a clue about life after he was gone? Who cares if he was gone? He was just some dude, nothing more nothing less.
What makes you say I havent been in love? I just dont subscribe to the silly romantic philosophies that Hollywood and romance novels give us as "what love is".
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Because I believed we were going to be together and get married. He got me pregnant and then left me alone. That's pretty much why I broke down. It wasn't all about us two anymore. I now had to take care of a growing life which he didn't care less about. Trust me though, he really isn't the strong one. I got over it after a few months. He's the one who still contacts me every now and again thinking we can get back together one day. I'm fine, he's not.
But yeah fair enough if you have a different view on what love is actually. Yes, like any usual woman, I do like romance books and films every now again but that really does not give me my total view of love. Nothing from my life will ever be perfect film like, unless you want a drama... When I am in a relationship, I just flow with my feelings. Hollywood does have it wrong yes, because they just do not portray just how much shit love causes. It can totally mess up your life. But then again, my past experience with love certainly does not put me off finding it ever again.
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I hope you do find it again. And I am sorry you had to deal with all that crap.
I guess the best way to be in a relationship is to just flow with your feelings, I just dont really let myself do that, which maybe I should.
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Thank you. I think I got unlucky and picked the wrong person anyway. I should have known better in some ways.
You know when you are with the right person (by right person, I don't mean "the one" business, just someone you know you can have a long term relationship with) when your feelings just flow automatically and you feel totally comfortable just to be yourself with them. That's what I found anyway. If there's any awkwardness, then they are not the one to spend your time with.
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Hmm, I never felt comfortable ever being myself, with anyone. I dont even know what being myself actually is in all honesty.
I feel awkward sitting there just me and my dog.