Is it normal to push people away?

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About 3 years ago I was something like a social person. Mostly over the web. There were these social groups, we would meet up once in a while. I would meet new people there and so on.We had same interests of sorts it was fun and all. Most of them were very good and interesting people. I still keep in contact with some of them but not like before. But then some of them wanted to be friends with me too badly. Like i had this girl she would call me every single day and talk with me for hours. it was killing me. I mean she would call around 10 pm and start talking. it was pretty hard to stop her. I remember wanting to do some other stuff then talking to her from 10 till I go to bed every day. or I had some ppl calling me to hang out a lot of time. almost everyday. I started to feel suffocated. I wasn't popular or anything, no it was a very normal act of interaction between people. but I didn't like it. I wanted everyone to leave me alone. I pushed them all away. i dreamed of freedom. i would find exuses, ignore their msgs and etc. Is that normal? isn't a teenage girl would like to have all these people around her?
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  • User666
    10 years ago | pl

    Some people just like being alone, or just enjoy their own company- that's perfectly normal.

    I'm not a teenage girl anymore, but I used to be like that too when I was younger. I'm still a loner and doing quite well. Sometimes it still freaks me out when I realise what I'm doing, and that I'm actually happy existing on my own; but I suppose that too is normal when the world is always telling you that you need to be social, and that you will be happy when you're surrounded by people, etc. Just stay true to who you are and you will become more comfortable with that.

    Socialising in the internet is not always such a good thing. People generally go to chat rooms when they want company- That was true for you too right? And some people just don't know when to quit- Not true for you :)

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  • it's_all_too_much
    12 years ago | pl

    Yeah, I do the same thing. I don't know why either, but being social has become more difficult over time. I seem to need a decent amount of alone time to feel sane. And it is hard when people want to get in on your time and space, sometimes it feels invasive. And it takes a long time to find the friends that actually respect that. I have had to sort of train my friends to get used to my being a "hermit" and they just have to wait for me to be ready to hang out with them! You might want to start enforcing that to those friends that you actually want to keep around. Let them know you aren't always going to be social, but the times when you're feeling sociable, you would call them. They can't expect you to be around all the time!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Imagine how embarrassed you'd feel, talking to someone for ages thinking everything is welcomed & fine, only to find they are despising it.

    You are really going to have to look at how you send a false "welcome" message, chat up & encourage people when you don't actually feel that way. In other words - stop being so dishonest.

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    • Lenalee
      13 years ago | pl

      @Ollieo well I am not actually sending any welcome messages and barely chat with them, that's the whole point. And I don't despise them, I just don't want to be bothered so much by anyone.. that's what worries me. but thanx anyways)

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  • mizeka
    13 years ago | pl

    I have had and still have many friends, but there have never been any close friends. I like to keep some distance. Some of my friends might think they know me well, but they have no idea. I tell people a lot about my life, but not my deepest feelings. Even my mother once said that they (my parents) can't know what my opinion is, since I don't usually express my feelings that much.

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  • amazinggedge19
    13 years ago | pl

    I used to have tons of friends before I entered junior year and now I just don't talk to anyone anymore. It is normal. I just kinda get bored with my friends.

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