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I'm a girl, but when I play video games online I pretend I'm a guy because nobody will hit on me when they think this. I feel kinda bad when I develop a kind of friendship, but otherwise I feel like it's necessary because as soon as people think I'm a girl they try to hit on me. is it normal that I lie so I can avoid being hit on?
It's sad gaming has got to that state but it really has some of the stuff I've heard people say to women on ghosts is genuinely shocking ( then again it is cod)
Literally just throwing abuse and aggressive sexual insults/threats simply because they saw by their gamertag or heard by their voice that they were a women, makes me ashamed to be a gamer ( among other things)
I've heard mmo's are pretty bad for stuff like that.
I always play as a guy given the choice except for in the first mass effect ( and subsequent games) I customised my own female Shepard. Apart from mass effect 3, I took my Shepard over and she looked completely different, really broke the immersion. Anyway I say normal
To be honest, I didn't think the attention was as bad as girls had told me before. (I'm a guy). So I decided to make female characters on several online games and I was pretty shocked at how differently the other gamers will treat you. I received A LOT of attention. most of it positive like compliments or extra help. But still a disturbing amount of sexually aggressive and ignorant things as well. Things that I would NOT have heard if I was on my "male" characters
To me, this is very upsetting. The gaming community has been bastardized with this prototype that only creepy, disgusting men play, and are ALLOWED to play, video games. And I think this has a lot to do with the "online confidence" effect that people get when they interact with players on these games. And it's disgusting really. You wouldn't go to an arcade and tell the girl on the pinball machine that you would "bang the shit out of her". and these remarks are only turning the community YOU play on against you in the end. Because you are now associated with the rude and ignorant community you propagate.
I know it's no use rioting and ranting on about changing the community. But I really wish this bullshit would stop. Video games were created for all genders and all ages. They are for EVERYONE to enjoy. The online experience is an opportunity to interact with people around the world and have fun playing entertaining games with them. The online experience should be treated with the same respect as real world interactions.
I pretend I don't have a gender and then form some kind of composite figure with no stereotypically male or female features, nor any anatomically male or female features.
Logically, I cease to exist for a bit. Which can be quite useful when one is reading Heidegger.
I don't assume every guy will hit on me, but there's certainly more than eough, even the ones who are 'just your friend' usually have to make some kind of stupid remark eventually. Actually, they're the most likely to do it. It's pretty easy to predict -most- guys will hit on you when you're following the pattern that most guys have hit on you.
I'm starting to think guys have a completely different idea of what hitting-on is than girls.
It is constant. I should know, it happens to me. Even if it wasn't, I don't want to be hit on -at all- and since I've been a guy online that has ceased to a problem. I don't give a crap about guys being nicer and more patient, which they seem nicer to me now actually, I just don't want anyone to hit on me. One out of ten is still one a-hole. I just find 'I'd like to bang you' more offensive than 'I'd like to kick your a**'.