Thank you for your thoughts, it's taken me a few days to take all that in and analyse it.
I see what you mean about "edgy" sex being utterly relative. It's clear to me that when we chase more "edginess" in itself, with no emotional, spiritual or affectional connection, ultimately it's unsatisfying and no longer edgy and so has to become more and more extreme to give any satisfaction - in other words, it becomes addiction.
I have noticed this in myself: when I first encountered depictions of anal sex on the net I was amazed and aroused, now it's commonplace.
I'm philosophically opposed to censorship but very concerned about the long term effects of so much porn depicting women supposedly enjoying being brutalised and subjected to practices which are dangerous and even life-threatening. As with your spanking analogy, I feel there's an emotional and ethical desensitisation involved which must inevitably lead to some individuals acting out these practices in real life when their response to internet porn wanes.
In the BDSM community there's a saying that fantasies are hungrier than bodies: if everyone watching brutal porn realised that and stayed in fantasy land women would be much safer in the real world.
IIN to plug your nose when breathing during sex?
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Thank you for your thoughts, it's taken me a few days to take all that in and analyse it.
I see what you mean about "edgy" sex being utterly relative. It's clear to me that when we chase more "edginess" in itself, with no emotional, spiritual or affectional connection, ultimately it's unsatisfying and no longer edgy and so has to become more and more extreme to give any satisfaction - in other words, it becomes addiction.
I have noticed this in myself: when I first encountered depictions of anal sex on the net I was amazed and aroused, now it's commonplace.
I'm philosophically opposed to censorship but very concerned about the long term effects of so much porn depicting women supposedly enjoying being brutalised and subjected to practices which are dangerous and even life-threatening. As with your spanking analogy, I feel there's an emotional and ethical desensitisation involved which must inevitably lead to some individuals acting out these practices in real life when their response to internet porn wanes.
In the BDSM community there's a saying that fantasies are hungrier than bodies: if everyone watching brutal porn realised that and stayed in fantasy land women would be much safer in the real world.