Is it normal to place my career before love?

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I am halfway through college and I couldn't help but notice all the couples that are engaged/married on campus. Idk if this makes any difference but I go to a small Christian school in a conservative community.
A lot of girls say that they want a ring by the end of college, what is this the bachelor? They are even willing to jeopardize their career and future so they can get married asap.
I don't see the point in that and I am working on myself and my future, isn't that what college is for? I've dated a few times but it's hard when we have different life goals.
Is it normal to put my career and future before a relationship?

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  • CountessDouche
    4 years ago | pl

    That only happens @ Christian colleges because they ain't allowed to bang.

    All of them get married at 19.

    You are normal. Focus on finding a career, a life, getting to know yourself & what you want from life and a partner. You will be a better spouse & have a happier marriage when the time comes.

    You are smart, cookie.

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    • SwickDinging
      4 years ago | pl

      I was thinking this. I don't think I ever met a married student during my time at University, except the mature students who had kids and a mortgage.

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  • SKDM007
    4 years ago | pl

    love ruins everything, your career will make you happy forever whereas a bitch will fuck you over for sure

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  • StrongOne
    4 years ago | pl

    Yes. You should always reach your goals first and be satisfied and settle down. Just be sure that you work but learn to live your life too. Happiness doesn't always come with high amount of salary but with a right person if it ever comes. So learn how to balance your career and social life.

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    • funk69
      4 years ago | pl

      Yes reach your goals first. I am 27 year old male, good looking and never been in relationships, I focus on fixing/building my life

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  • Bumfuzzle
    4 years ago | pl

    The heart pumps about 1 million barrels of blood during an average lifetime!

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  • McBean
    4 years ago | pl

    Transfer to a public college. You'll meet far more people like yourself.

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  • SwickDinging
    4 years ago | pl

    I don't see why you can't have both? A healthy relationship wouldn't get in the way of you completing college and going after the career that you want.

    From what you're saying here, though, it sounds like these aren't the healthiest relationships if people are having to jeopardize their careers from them.

    You sound like you've got your head screwed on right. If the right person comes along before you finish college then you'll be fine because the right person will want you to succeed and finish your course. If anyone starts getting in the way of that then kick them to the curb.

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  • palehorse
    4 years ago | pl

    Normal. Romance is overrated and unnecessary. It can also screw up your life if you don't know what you're doing or rush into things.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago | pl

    Classic christian pin heads! The whole pre marital sex thing has people getting married when they shouldn't just so they can have sex and then their life gets fucked up. Similar thing happened to my brother actually. You are being smart mate!

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago | pl

    I think you're smart, you're certainly smarter than the people around you.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago | pl

    When you meet the right one you'll know it. Don't try to rush it just let it happen.

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  • SmokeEverything
    4 years ago | pl

    Careers are for nerds but I feel like getting married by the end of college is way more basic than your average christian nerd. Only sheeple get married.

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