Is it normal to pickup women at random places?

I'm a chick and god damn I WISH guys would walk up to me and try to get my number or go on a date. It seems like now, people only want to go on dates with people they've known for ages or met at parties. I would say most guys don't do what you do but I don't think you should stop.

I saw a girl at Whole Foods that I thought was cute, so I went up to her and asked her some b.s. about whether she preferred silver or gold on a guy, or maybe it was something about whether she preferred jazz or rock, for whatever reason. It didn't matter; I just wanted to talk to her because she was cute, and she knew this. My interest in her was implicit. After about a minute, I said we should get together, and she gave me her number. It was a real number, and we had a drink together later that week. She was from Los Angeles and she was already married. Another time I approached a girl at the post office, got her number and met her at a bar that very night. At the bar she said she already had a boyfriend, but she just wanted to be friendly. Another time I approached a girl at a chinese take-out restaurant, and she gave me her number, but then she ignored me. You can imagine that I was getting pretty frustrated at this point, but if you go up to every pretty woman that you see and talk to her, eventually you will end up kissing one of them. If you never go up to anybody, that will never happen. So yes; go up to women at the grocery store, the pharmacy, the BBQ place, anywhere...they couldn't care less. They either have a boyfriend or they don't, and they either like you or they don't. It doesn't matter if you're at a party or waiting in the checkout line at Whole Foods.

Hey, I always find unspoken rules between men/women very interesting ....
I first congratulate you by having the BALLS for approaching a girl u didn't previously knew, you are already braver than 95%% of men that don't do that only for fear of rejection....
I think that in that situations is important the timing, maybe you came a little to hard at her at a place where her defences where low (unlike in a singles bar or disco where he dressed her best, spent a lot of time with the makeup and feels very powerful and expects all men to approach her). I think that you shouldn't stop to approach girls in random places, just don't go directly for her phone or a date and instead try get her opinion on something related to the place u are (grocery: opinion about clothes soap...street: a direction at some known place...gym: if she knows the guy that recommends the workout routines and where can you find it), and after you get her attention in a harmless level, try to change the subject into another topic. If the interaction developed quite smooth, then ask casually for her phone. If a casual conversation didn't develop, just say goodbye politely as if the info you requested was all u where looking for. Don't take too personally this rejection and this hurtful comment on her profile, women already have enough things to worry about, maybe she was much more insecure than you and her lack of confidence made her deprived her for the chance to meet you.
So bottom line, congrats, u are very brave and don't let this obstacles stand in your way of finding the kind of women that you want and deserve.
Bye

She did it to safely get rid of you and was probably a bit - at some level - creeped out that you would hit on her while she was shopping for groceries.

I'm surprised you hadn't figured that out Casanova.

Unless your a fuckn chuckuba(hairy ass animal), keep doin what your doin bro

Original poster:

Keep doing what you're doing. You should post that girl's full name here. She crossed the line by sharing yours. I also live in Chicago and don't like this mentality. I'd love to humiliate this bitch.

It's okay to talk to strangers (if you manage to it in a non-creepy way. DON'T sneak up on them), but try to get the conversation going a little while longer (10-15 minutes should do) before you start asking numbers.

And remember, there's no fail-safe way to get a girl's number. But there's no shame in failing, as long as you have the balls to try you'll be alright.

i have done similar things before and girls are shocked that you just casually start talking to them, most are flattered by it, of corse some think its weird but i dont see why it is, its normal to talk to random people in a club so why not anywhere else?

I just want to add that it does take courage to do what you did, and not everybody can handle the rejection that comes with hitting on random women. I don't consider myself a creep for approaching all those girls in public places; I just used the various settings as backdrops for my conversation topics. You'll come across as a creep if you come on strong and fail to use any sort of tact or subtlety.

You have to realize pretty women are constantly being hit on by guys left and right every day, and they don't see us the way we see them. A guy who approaches a pretty girl and tries to act 'really nice' usually just 1) bores her, and/or 2) creeps her out.

It's really a simple matter of how much courage/confidence you have, how much you really want to go out on a date with a beautiful woman (some guys just don't want to), how much you are willing to accept that a lot of courtship boils down to simple odds, and how well you are able to deal with rejection. There's some kind of myth that guys who plan how they're going to hit on women are creeps, and all the good guys are sweet and innocent, and would never plan anything and just say 'hello,' but that's all just a myth. Make a plan and go for the beautiful girl. You're worth it, and so is she.