Is it normal to pay for a young lady's expenses

I am an older man and met this young lady who is 24 through an online website, and I have agreed to pay some of her expenses. Specifically, she told me that she likes beauty and fashion stuff so I suggested that I pay for whatever she buys like makeup, clothes, shoes, handbags, and jewelry. I also let her know that I would be willing to pay for her groceries and any food that she buys from fast food places and restaurants. However I have advised her that I will not be funding her student loans, rent, bills, and credit card payments. The way I see it is that I am helping a young person who is starting out in life on her own to become a responsible adult. Just because she cannot afford something outside of her budget does not mean that she should not be able to have it. In return she has conversations with me online about what is going on in her life, usually through words but sometimes when she makes big purchases in a week she will make a video blog for me so I can see her and hear her voice and see what her bedroom looks like. Sometimes she models the clothes and accessories that I bought for her if she is in a good mood. She has shown me a tour of her apartment and it looks quite comfortable. At times she has persuaded me to help pay for her furniture, especially if I thought it would look good in her apartment. She has also told me that she has a boyfriend and he is fine with me and her having this arrangement.

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Based on 12 votes (3 yes)
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Comments ( 9 )
  • Master.debater

    How is buying her unnecessary things like extra makeup, fancy clothes, and fast food helping her more than helping her with student loans and rent?

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  • Boojum

    I don't really see how you donating cash to this panhandler is helping to make her a "responsible adult". Isn't it generally accepted that living within your means is part of being a responsible, independent adult?

    Nor do I see what you're getting out of this. If you've got money to spare and you really want to make a positive difference in someone's life, make a long-term commitment to sponsor a couple of girls in developing countries and help them get an education so their life and that of their families is much improved. Or help a young person in your family or circle of friends get an education or set up a business. Buying some random girl handbags, make-up, and shoes just because she's greedy enough to go online and beg doesn't really compare.

    Also have to say that I think you'd be naïve to believe that you're her only sugar-daddy.

    You're obviously being used, but if you're getting something out of the arrangement, carry on - it's your money, and you don't need the blessings of anyone here.

    Finally, her modeling what you've bought for her "if she is in a good mood" smells a little like manipulation. What do you have to do to get her in a good mood?

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  • Arm0se

    This sounds unhealthy.

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    • RoseIsabella

      It is unhealthy on many levels.

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  • barstool

    Are you happy with that arrangement? I don't really see how it would be fulfilling, but if it makes you happy and you don't feel like you're being cheated, then enjoy it.
    I don't think it's normal (as in, most people don't do it). But if you're both on the same page about what it is you're doing and what is or isn't expected, then it doesn't really matter if it's normal imo.

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome

    I hope she gives you sex at least.

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  • BeautifulDreamer612

    She is mostl likely a catfish using you for your money.

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  • Takuto

    Hi, I'm going to assume you're actually interested in her sexually. I think if you actually wanted to help her you'd let her walk on her own two feet. Paying off her student loans is helpful, buying her makeup isn't.
    Spend your money on your kids or give it to a charity who work with students to help them.
    Also, one reason to not buy her stuff, is because she hasn't earned it herself.

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  • FilthyLoca

    Things like this exist, but its more so the man seeking the woman out for financial domination, its a fetish. It sounds like this person is taking advantage of you.

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