Okay seriously, what the FUCK is wrong with you people? This kid has NO idea what he's doing and most of you are throwing the poor boy to the dogs. If anything the parents should be to blame here, not their mentally handicapped son, for not getting OP the help that they need.
I understand why this makes you feel like shit, OP. The way you feel is nothing to feel bad about, your parents should be sitting him down when he does these things and making him understand why it's bad. They should be helping you more. The two of you have different kinds of disabilities, but unlike your brother yours is life threatening and it doesn't seem like your family is taking that seriously enough. But do try not to blame your brother, it's much harder because the situation is literally so close to home, but he really doesn't mean it.
Talk to your parents, make them understand why it's important that they correct this behavior, seeing as it has already become a habitual thing and it's probably going to harder to stop him now. There are lots of people with lots of different disabilities in the world and you can place most of them in 2 categories.. people who overcome their disabilities, don't let it define them as a person and live good and happy lives despite their circumstances; and people who use their disabilities as an excuse and let it control them, and that's no good for them or the people around them. It sounds to me like your parents are kind of dropping your brother into that category and that's not fair.
I'm mostly just pissed at all you people saying institutionalize him. Yeah just pawn off your child. I know a little bit about those institutions and nursing homes (my grandfather died due to nurses not knowing what the fuck they're doing) and while the majority of people who work in these places will be good people and hard workers, things happen sometimes. Even so, unless you really had to, how many of you would wanna go live in a cold, clinical place, probably with some weird roomate you have no decision over with those HORRIBLE incandascent lights blaring into your soul, bland shitty institutional cafeteria food and your life strictly regimented and controlled for the rest of your life? My boyfriend's brother has cerebral palsy and as the state is trying to move away from the home care system, him and countless other people are fighting to stay out of places like this.
Your parents need to do something, but "sending the problem away" is NOT the answer.
There's a point where the person you think is your family member stops being that person and becomes a nutcase and can even become harmful to you and your family. Clearly that is occurring in this cause since the OP is suffering from this.
That's the point where you put the person in an institution. There is also a point where people need to realize they should no longer be on this earth and end their own life.
When I get to the point in my old age where I fall in and out of sanity or become a physical burden on others, then I'll end my life. It's better than to keep living in lunacy and dying at the hands of negligent nurses or god knows what else.
Sometimes the state is better equipped to handle people with major mental disorders. While I believe it is usually best for the person with mental problems to stay with the family, sometimes they cannot be controlled or fit in well and that's when they should be institutionalized.
Is it normal to openly hate my retarded brother?
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Okay seriously, what the FUCK is wrong with you people? This kid has NO idea what he's doing and most of you are throwing the poor boy to the dogs. If anything the parents should be to blame here, not their mentally handicapped son, for not getting OP the help that they need.
I understand why this makes you feel like shit, OP. The way you feel is nothing to feel bad about, your parents should be sitting him down when he does these things and making him understand why it's bad. They should be helping you more. The two of you have different kinds of disabilities, but unlike your brother yours is life threatening and it doesn't seem like your family is taking that seriously enough. But do try not to blame your brother, it's much harder because the situation is literally so close to home, but he really doesn't mean it.
Talk to your parents, make them understand why it's important that they correct this behavior, seeing as it has already become a habitual thing and it's probably going to harder to stop him now. There are lots of people with lots of different disabilities in the world and you can place most of them in 2 categories.. people who overcome their disabilities, don't let it define them as a person and live good and happy lives despite their circumstances; and people who use their disabilities as an excuse and let it control them, and that's no good for them or the people around them. It sounds to me like your parents are kind of dropping your brother into that category and that's not fair.
I'm mostly just pissed at all you people saying institutionalize him. Yeah just pawn off your child. I know a little bit about those institutions and nursing homes (my grandfather died due to nurses not knowing what the fuck they're doing) and while the majority of people who work in these places will be good people and hard workers, things happen sometimes. Even so, unless you really had to, how many of you would wanna go live in a cold, clinical place, probably with some weird roomate you have no decision over with those HORRIBLE incandascent lights blaring into your soul, bland shitty institutional cafeteria food and your life strictly regimented and controlled for the rest of your life? My boyfriend's brother has cerebral palsy and as the state is trying to move away from the home care system, him and countless other people are fighting to stay out of places like this.
Your parents need to do something, but "sending the problem away" is NOT the answer.
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There's a point where the person you think is your family member stops being that person and becomes a nutcase and can even become harmful to you and your family. Clearly that is occurring in this cause since the OP is suffering from this.
That's the point where you put the person in an institution. There is also a point where people need to realize they should no longer be on this earth and end their own life.
When I get to the point in my old age where I fall in and out of sanity or become a physical burden on others, then I'll end my life. It's better than to keep living in lunacy and dying at the hands of negligent nurses or god knows what else.
Sometimes the state is better equipped to handle people with major mental disorders. While I believe it is usually best for the person with mental problems to stay with the family, sometimes they cannot be controlled or fit in well and that's when they should be institutionalized.