Is it normal to only want wild sex with hookers?

Look, I've been divorced for almost ten years so it seems to me that I should have gotten over the emotional damage by now. But you what: I'm still fucked up. The only sex I want and get with a woman (and sometimes two or more women at the same time) is with a Hooker. And I'm talking about a real down and dirty whore. I know it's because I can control things. I give the orders and they obey. I get what I want and then they leave. There is very little emotion involved. Just my satisfied lust. Thats the only thing that matters. Two problems with that, now: (1) I'm getting older and desire a partner to share my life with. (2) My lust has gotten too expensive. I don't drink or do drugs but there must be some kind of therepy for a guy like me. Have I become some sort of sexual addict? Any suggestions, anyone? I hate the prospect of going to one of tose support groups like AA. Even though I have friends who swear that it is going to AA meetings that keep them on the wagon. Are there support groups for guys who lust like me? I don't even know how to have a normal relationship with a woman. And I don't blame my ex. Believe me, I'm the one who screwed up our marriage. Look, I'm writing this on father's day. I just had a great talk with my daughter. So I'm feeling really guilty and fucked up right now. So before this euphoria wears off . . . Any of you dudes out there been where I am? I'll be looking at this site all week for any help you can give. Thanks.

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  • Sex with hookers isn't wild, trust me I know. It lowers your self esteem, leaves you with a sense of buyers remorse and in some cases means you have to explain to your family Doctor why you want to be tested.

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  • I am a lot like you and have tried sex addicts anonymous and hated that place...it has people who have a deep seated shame of sex and grew up believing sex is bad and shameful...many of them are actually guys who cant get girlfriends and or have sex...some are people that have to beat up on themselves and feel guilt and shame and wear it like a blanket...most are not oversexed but undersexed in that they cant getbsteady sex...that is just my experience....

    Sex with hookers is a varied experience....its like people who do one night stands....sometimes its will suck and leave you empty and frustrated...sometimes it will be ok and sometimes you qill actually feel satisfied and happy...just like if you dated a lot of girls you would feel the same...I am not sure if it hurts self esteem or if guys with low self esteem to begin with are more likely to go to hookers....the money part is real ...but evn dating a lot can get expensive...if you are a man trying to get angirlfriend you will pay onevway or the other....

    if you gavevextreme fetishes and proclivities like s& m stuff you might always have to use hookers on some level unless youre really lucky...

    I have very low self esteem when it comes to females because of my past bad experiences with them...I also have social anxiety to a degree ....women seem tomignore me andnto top it off I am not well endowed...and have abvery high sex drive...somfor me hookers have been the only way I can get my sexual needs met...it sucks as I must risk arrest...and have been arrested...disease..and danger

    howevr i have lost my sex drivebat times andvthat sucks too..even worse than sexual frustration...

    Dont think in extremes..celebrate your sexuality...if you want a real relationship justbtakes real steps to meet some women qnd gwtbtomknownthem...if you want to cut down on going to prostitutes do it....if you find yourselfbstill going to one...dont beat up onnyourself just keep trying to meet real women....you can even fall in lovevwith some prostitute andbthey withnyou..its rare but it does happen...most are users though

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  • I would not talk about that as prostitution is illegal

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  • All women are hookers...only the manner of payment differs.

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  • I'm sorry man.. try jacking off to porn and save your money.

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  • all this talk about sex is making me horny

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  • Sounds like you enjoyed the no strings attached aspect, but are getting tired of it and wanting more. Why don't you try giving up the hookers and getting back to the dating scene and see if you're happier

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  • Yes, you sound like a sex addict with a fear of intimacy. Check out Sex Addicts Anonymous.
    http://saa-recovery.org/

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  • you'll end up dying of aids

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