ah, perfectly understandable then.
I just wanted to eliminate the option that you merely have minor cosmetic shortcomings and consider that a serious fault.
Not that i truly expected it, but i kind of lost most of my faith in mankind...and you just know there's people out there that would consider something like this in all seriousness for issues and reasons that are miniscule.
Glad to hear(or more accurately, not glad to hear) that it's an actual understandable reasoning behind your thoughts.
As for alternatives, i never wanted any more than mention it, i would rather feel i had wasted my time on someone if you were to base a decision on this poll instead of talks with a future partner ^_^
But as you know, she may also have a say in it, and if you are already opening up to such ideas, you may as well open up to the whole spectrum of possibilities, so you can be fine with whatever feels best for her. As said, if it was me, i would probably be so selfish as to want to have an actual baby that is mine. _I_ would also understand your reasonings and agree...but you should keep in mind not everyone may...others may want to take their chances with your genes.
If you are absolutely serious about this, you may as well "settle" things _IF_ you make up your mind...a vasectomy would technically be reversible if you later change your mind, and you could simply tell the girl that you are infertile(not a lie...you just omit(or not) the reason) and thus make it easier for her to accept that your future children will not be by you(but rather by a donor or adoption).
Is it normal to only want to adopt instead of having your own child?
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ah, perfectly understandable then.
I just wanted to eliminate the option that you merely have minor cosmetic shortcomings and consider that a serious fault.
Not that i truly expected it, but i kind of lost most of my faith in mankind...and you just know there's people out there that would consider something like this in all seriousness for issues and reasons that are miniscule.
Glad to hear(or more accurately, not glad to hear) that it's an actual understandable reasoning behind your thoughts.
As for alternatives, i never wanted any more than mention it, i would rather feel i had wasted my time on someone if you were to base a decision on this poll instead of talks with a future partner ^_^
But as you know, she may also have a say in it, and if you are already opening up to such ideas, you may as well open up to the whole spectrum of possibilities, so you can be fine with whatever feels best for her. As said, if it was me, i would probably be so selfish as to want to have an actual baby that is mine. _I_ would also understand your reasonings and agree...but you should keep in mind not everyone may...others may want to take their chances with your genes.
If you are absolutely serious about this, you may as well "settle" things _IF_ you make up your mind...a vasectomy would technically be reversible if you later change your mind, and you could simply tell the girl that you are infertile(not a lie...you just omit(or not) the reason) and thus make it easier for her to accept that your future children will not be by you(but rather by a donor or adoption).