Is it normal to obsess over someone you don't have a crush on?

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I cannot stop thinking about a guy. Lately I've been dreaming about him rather often as well. I get jealous when he is with other girls. Until recently, he was in a relationship and when it ended I was extremely excited. The odd thing is that I don't think I have a crush on him. There are no butterflies or any sort of strong feelings. I feel very comfortable around him. However, I haven't had a legitimate crush in 4 or 5 years and I have a fear of rejection, so I'm wondering if I am somehow "muting" my feelings for him or something. With the previous crushes (though there haven't been many), I felt major butterflies and nerves around them. This doesn't feel at all like that. So basically, is it normal to constantly think about/obsess over someone you don't have a crush on?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Ya you like him this has happened to me

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago | pl

    If you dream about him, you're probably subconsciously thinking about him. And the fact that you're happy that him and his girlfriend broke up, thats a no brainer. I think you like him, and slowly but surely you're on your way to figuring that out. You might already know that you do, but you're not admitting it to yourself. One you admit it to yourself that you have a definite thing for this guy, you're probably gonna float up to cloud nine. And if you can get him to give you a chance and go out, you'll really be on cloud nine. You like him, so just let yourself fall...........................................

    <3

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  • bananachowder
    12 years ago | pl

    i do this allllll the time !

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Omg I was thinking if I should post something like this yesterday. There's this guy that I don't have a crush on either but i get a lil jealous when he's with other girls too. I also feel really comfortable around him and everything an when he got out of his relationship I was pretty happy. I knew it wasn't gonna last anyways heh. So ya I wonder if I'm doing the same thing u r!

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  • InsertBlankHere
    12 years ago | pl

    You like him, don't you? I don't see why else you'd be thinking about him.
    As Josie said, maybe he's different than the others. I bet if you spent a lot more time with him, things would change.
    Maybe you're like me, and obsessing and pining over people has little use any more. What's the point? It happens or it doesn't. No need to get your hopes up over something that's completely up in the air.

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  • Josie_57
    12 years ago | pl

    ive had this before. i think you do like him, but in a different way to your previous crushes maybe?

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