The problem you have is that it's easy to tell yourself "This is something I cannot control" as an excuse to not even try.
So when faced with advice that doesn't uphold this excuse - from people who've already been through that stage - you automatically assume they don't know what they're talking about.
Cos no one else in history has ever been through an infatuation. If they don't uphold your view points they can't have possibly ever had a crush, infatuation, or even been in love.
What you had was not the same thing, my dear, and let me tell you why. From the time I was very young, I have always found myself attracted to unattainable men. I don't know why. Maybe there's is a reason behind it, maybe not, but I will say, I never make the choice. Oh yes, I know the truth. It's not that I'm not living in reality, I know the truth, I have no chance of getting these unattaible men, but once I latch on it's impossible to let go.
I'm going to walk through this step by step, and try not to miss anything, alright. Typically, what occurs is, I will be on the internet and I will come across a picture of a guy that I find attractive (this does not include every attractive guy, but certain guys, for some reason, have the "it" factor). I will try to ignore it and go about the rest of my day, but once I have seen the picture or video of whom ever he may be, he tends to get stuck in my head. At this point, I find myself trying to forget him, but I can't. And the aching need to just look at that picture "one more time" comes to haunt me. I try to fight that aching need, but it feels nearly impossible, so I give in, and I tell myself not to do it again. Regardless, the aching feeling returns and a find myself looking at him again. Usually, it will be the same picture as before, but I continue to give to this indulgence, I find myself groing bored of the first picture, and the coniving voice in the back of my head tells me to look at another. "It won't hurt." So I do, and at this point, I am usually in denial, and I find myself fighting with it when I try to sleep. With everyday that passes, he grows more and more into my mind, regardless of how much I may try to forget him (and this is whether I have been seeing pictures of him or not). I still find myself in denial, however, as I always have one infatuation, and I am not prepared to move on into another one. But after a few months, typically, I find myself forgetting the other guy, and moving on to the new one, which, at times, I may still be fighting it. It's usually around the 2nd or 3rd month where I give up, as I have come to the realization that there is nothing I can do about it.
You ever have a song in your head; a song, in which, no matter how hard you try to get rid of it, it's still there. It's like that. I can tell myself I don't like him all I want (this happens everytime I develope a new infatuation). I can fight it and try to make myself believe it's not going to last this time (this also happens everytime I develope a new infatuation), however, every single time, I find myself losing this fight. It seems, the only way to get rid of one infatuation, is to develope another. Does it bother me? No. In high school, I was bullied for it because of my undeniable love for Zac Efron. Still didn't get him out of my head though. He didn't come out of my head until Ricky Nelson came into my head, and then Thomas Dekker and so on. I know you think you know what I'm talking about, but if you truly did, you would understand what I mean. What you have had, was a crush, my dear, and not the kind of crush I'm talking about. For some people, it's easy to leave it at a crush and get over it when they feel like, but for other (like myself) it is truly not that simple. It's like a drug. I did not chose to have these infatuations. It just happens.
I don't know what you mean by me trying to talk down to you, but I am letting you know my experiences. And you don't seem to be trying to explain yourself very much, only that "you've been through the same thing", so this is becoming pointless. If you don't want to comprehend or reason with what I am saying, then I am not going to try to explain it to you any further.
I wasn't aware I was required to divulge my entire life to you. If you refuse to associate any value to advice unless people give you a long list of experiences then you're pretty much cutting your nose off to spite your face.
But hey, if the crutch helps... i guess, embrace it for all it's worth.
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The problem you have is that it's easy to tell yourself "This is something I cannot control" as an excuse to not even try.
So when faced with advice that doesn't uphold this excuse - from people who've already been through that stage - you automatically assume they don't know what they're talking about.
Cos no one else in history has ever been through an infatuation. If they don't uphold your view points they can't have possibly ever had a crush, infatuation, or even been in love.
Yet ... I'm the one who's closed off.
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What you had was not the same thing, my dear, and let me tell you why. From the time I was very young, I have always found myself attracted to unattainable men. I don't know why. Maybe there's is a reason behind it, maybe not, but I will say, I never make the choice. Oh yes, I know the truth. It's not that I'm not living in reality, I know the truth, I have no chance of getting these unattaible men, but once I latch on it's impossible to let go.
I'm going to walk through this step by step, and try not to miss anything, alright. Typically, what occurs is, I will be on the internet and I will come across a picture of a guy that I find attractive (this does not include every attractive guy, but certain guys, for some reason, have the "it" factor). I will try to ignore it and go about the rest of my day, but once I have seen the picture or video of whom ever he may be, he tends to get stuck in my head. At this point, I find myself trying to forget him, but I can't. And the aching need to just look at that picture "one more time" comes to haunt me. I try to fight that aching need, but it feels nearly impossible, so I give in, and I tell myself not to do it again. Regardless, the aching feeling returns and a find myself looking at him again. Usually, it will be the same picture as before, but I continue to give to this indulgence, I find myself groing bored of the first picture, and the coniving voice in the back of my head tells me to look at another. "It won't hurt." So I do, and at this point, I am usually in denial, and I find myself fighting with it when I try to sleep. With everyday that passes, he grows more and more into my mind, regardless of how much I may try to forget him (and this is whether I have been seeing pictures of him or not). I still find myself in denial, however, as I always have one infatuation, and I am not prepared to move on into another one. But after a few months, typically, I find myself forgetting the other guy, and moving on to the new one, which, at times, I may still be fighting it. It's usually around the 2nd or 3rd month where I give up, as I have come to the realization that there is nothing I can do about it.
You ever have a song in your head; a song, in which, no matter how hard you try to get rid of it, it's still there. It's like that. I can tell myself I don't like him all I want (this happens everytime I develope a new infatuation). I can fight it and try to make myself believe it's not going to last this time (this also happens everytime I develope a new infatuation), however, every single time, I find myself losing this fight. It seems, the only way to get rid of one infatuation, is to develope another. Does it bother me? No. In high school, I was bullied for it because of my undeniable love for Zac Efron. Still didn't get him out of my head though. He didn't come out of my head until Ricky Nelson came into my head, and then Thomas Dekker and so on. I know you think you know what I'm talking about, but if you truly did, you would understand what I mean. What you have had, was a crush, my dear, and not the kind of crush I'm talking about. For some people, it's easy to leave it at a crush and get over it when they feel like, but for other (like myself) it is truly not that simple. It's like a drug. I did not chose to have these infatuations. It just happens.
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"What you had was not the same thing, my dear,"
I haven't actually told you all that i've been through. So your statement holds no value.
However I am amused by your attempt to talk down to me missy.
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I don't know what you mean by me trying to talk down to you, but I am letting you know my experiences. And you don't seem to be trying to explain yourself very much, only that "you've been through the same thing", so this is becoming pointless. If you don't want to comprehend or reason with what I am saying, then I am not going to try to explain it to you any further.
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I wasn't aware I was required to divulge my entire life to you. If you refuse to associate any value to advice unless people give you a long list of experiences then you're pretty much cutting your nose off to spite your face.
But hey, if the crutch helps... i guess, embrace it for all it's worth.