If my partner said I was boring... I wouldn't be interested in working hard to pleasure them either.
It sounds like you want him to change to suit your needs. Perhaps that's the problem... You say you love him but... if you want him to change so much of himself, is it really HIM that you love?
Part of loving someone is loving the entire person - even the faults. If you want to constantly change them, perhaps you need to rethink what you feel, or perhaps what your expectations are.
First of all, thank you for commenting on my situation, however; I never mentioned in the story that I wanted to change him. In fact, I said I love those qualities about him…I’m just missing one important part of the relationship. Secondly, I do not call my partner, “boring”, it’s something that is well known…besides, he calls himself that; nonetheless it’s what describes him. I’m pretty sure he has descriptive words that describe my character as well. Anyway, his issue is deep…it goes beyond our relationship. I hope in time that he seeks help or the relationship will be forced to take a turn for another direction! Thanks again for your input.
Was he like this when you first met him? Or is it just a recent change.
I mean sure I understand wanting more sex... but if you knew he was like this when you married him... isn't this something you should have considered before hand?
That's not changing him, it's something that is expected in most relationships. I don't think I'm asking for too much or being unreasonable!
In the beginning, we did have sex and although it wasn't often...it did happen so I didn't complain about the rarity of our sex life. Now, it's nothing...so I'd say this is worth complaining about!
It's like ordering dinner. Sure you feel it should taste good because it's "expected". However when you go and order say, tomato soup, when you prefer say clam chowder... is it really the soup's fault it's not good enough?
Is it normal to not want to have sex with your partner?
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"he is boring"
If my partner said I was boring... I wouldn't be interested in working hard to pleasure them either.
It sounds like you want him to change to suit your needs. Perhaps that's the problem... You say you love him but... if you want him to change so much of himself, is it really HIM that you love?
Part of loving someone is loving the entire person - even the faults. If you want to constantly change them, perhaps you need to rethink what you feel, or perhaps what your expectations are.
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First of all, thank you for commenting on my situation, however; I never mentioned in the story that I wanted to change him. In fact, I said I love those qualities about him…I’m just missing one important part of the relationship. Secondly, I do not call my partner, “boring”, it’s something that is well known…besides, he calls himself that; nonetheless it’s what describes him. I’m pretty sure he has descriptive words that describe my character as well. Anyway, his issue is deep…it goes beyond our relationship. I hope in time that he seeks help or the relationship will be forced to take a turn for another direction! Thanks again for your input.
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but you DO want to change him.
You want him to be more sexual. And he's not.
Was he like this when you first met him? Or is it just a recent change.
I mean sure I understand wanting more sex... but if you knew he was like this when you married him... isn't this something you should have considered before hand?
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That's not changing him, it's something that is expected in most relationships. I don't think I'm asking for too much or being unreasonable!
In the beginning, we did have sex and although it wasn't often...it did happen so I didn't complain about the rarity of our sex life. Now, it's nothing...so I'd say this is worth complaining about!
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It's like ordering dinner. Sure you feel it should taste good because it's "expected". However when you go and order say, tomato soup, when you prefer say clam chowder... is it really the soup's fault it's not good enough?